When are you too old?

At 49 I still go out when I’ve got the chance. Normally, with my wife and if it’s in London we normally get a room for the night as our last train from London is ridiculously early. But I have noticed recently a massive lack of stamina. Wether that’s because we both work hard all week and get to the weekend and are shattered or we’ve both not got it any more. I’m hoping coming to Ibiza will loosen us up and going out later for food then a dance will do the trick. Maybe after a cheeky disco nap.
We have found the afternoon parties more pleasurable but it doesn’t feel quite right. In my mind I’m still that 20 year old who would dance until the sun came up. But then again, I had necked a pill at the start of the night.
 
From your 40s-50s onwards I think it's a case of getting the right balance between still having fun but not being some tragi-comic midlife perve like wayne lineker. Personally music is so engrained in me I'll probably never stop going out but I think I have that self-awareness to know when I'm in the wrong place. Someone like me would probably last 30 mins at HI, 10 mins at Amnesia and 30 seconds at Ibiza Rocks. Whereas the likes of Pikes, Dalias, Malanga, Paradise Lost all reliably cater to an older crowd, and their ethos appeals to people who remember what it was like before when you were just having a laugh with pals in a garden at someone's house, rather than getting stressed and worn out by brands, wristbands, queues, dimwits, confetti and annoying elbows. I think what also changes is you become more discerning and demanding, not through snobbery, but because you're more conscious of not wasting precious time and cash. And you also find yourself in relationships where your better half will want to go to nice restaurants, sometimes involving a drive which means everything needs to be planned with laser precision.
 
Marts73 said:
At 49 I still go out when I’ve got the chance. Normally, with my wife and if it’s in London we normally get a room for the night as our last train from London is ridiculously early. But I have noticed recently a massive lack of stamina. Wether that’s because we both work hard all week and get to the weekend and are shattered or we’ve both not got it any more. I’m hoping coming to Ibiza will loosen us up and going out later for food then a dance will do the trick. Maybe after a cheeky disco nap.
We have found the afternoon parties more pleasurable but it doesn’t feel quite right. In my mind I’m still that 20 year old who would dance until the sun came up. But then again, I had necked a pill at the start of the night.
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You can't beat an afternoon nap before a night out! *Someone bring me my slippers...*
 
Tourist said:
From your 40s-50s onwards I think it's a case of getting the right balance between still having fun but not being some tragi-comic midlife perve like wayne lineker. Personally music is so engrained in me I'll probably never stop going out but I think I have that self-awareness to know when I'm in the wrong place. Someone like me would probably last 30 mins at HI, 10 mins at Amnesia and 30 seconds at Ibiza Rocks. Whereas the likes of Pikes, Dalias, Malanga, Paradise Lost all reliably cater to an older crowd, and their ethos appeals to people who remember what it was like before when you were just having a laugh with pals in a garden at someone's house, rather than getting stressed and worn out by brands, wristbands, queues, dimwits, confetti and annoying elbows. I think what also changes is you become more discerning and demanding, not through snobbery, but because you're more conscious of not wasting precious time and cash. And you also find yourself in relationships where your better half will want to go to nice restaurants, sometimes involving a drive which means everything needs to be planned with laser precision.
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Definitely a lot harder work when you have your bird in tow.
 
Yeh not enough stamina nowadays is a real thing

Maybe because we are older and also because of covid not doing that much for two years, and not much partying at all

I can do a few hours and then I struggle, even more if the music is not to my exact liking (which is very fussy I know)

I pick my club nights very Carefully so if I see a dj I love, my expectations are so high that I end up disappointed alot of the time
 
I think part of it for me is just nerves after being in isolation and not having travelled or gone clubbing in so long. (I do have a trip to the Netherlands planned before Ibiza, thankfully.) Plus I can't play chicken with my mental health so much these days. Plus just staying up till 2am on a few beers leaves me more noticeably knackered than it used to...
 
thecultoftintin said:
Just turned 51 and love going out in the UK and love going to Ibiza and its clubs. But sadly I feel like I'm more concerned about queues for toilets and bars, and being pushed around and elbowed, especially for my 5'1" girlfriend. VIP sounds perfect to me but I simply can't afford that. So yeah, too old for DC10 and Amnesia, but don't feel ready for a holiday just based solely around Ushuaia and Pikes. Like a lot of people, I've been going to Ibiza every year since the 90s...though I haven't been since 2019, and once again I'll be saying "this is my last time..."

Getting old or just getting more sensible? Probably a bit of both.
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Not been to DC10 in a long time (last time you still had the garden area to roll around the gravel in), but if this is how you feel, its best to hit it up very early and just leave when it gets too busy to be enjoyable.
 
I haven't been to Ibiza since Sep/Oct 2015 but for reasons not connected to my age (work, other destinations, birth of child in '18, pandemic)

Big clubbing nights out at home have been limited for similar reasons. Also, my current crowd is more into standing around bars and what I do feel too old for is going clubbing solo. When I have gone out, stamina or recovery haven't been issues though. I am invincible...

Planning a return to Ibiza this year with my mates to mark 3 of us reaching the big 5-0. :)
(initially thought July but a stupid war and resulting need to get our affairs in order and prepare to relocate pushed it back to likely September)
 
Johnny Vodka said:
I think part of it for me is just nerves after being in isolation and not having travelled or gone clubbing in so long. (I do have a trip to the Netherlands planned before Ibiza, thankfully.) Plus I can't play chicken with my mental health so much these days. Plus just staying up till 2am on a few beers leaves me more noticeably knackered than it used to...
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hope it improves for you. I had a weird one seeing people in Brighton last week. a slight feeling of being overwhelmed. not sure if pandemic related or just not seeing people in general having not been in England for so long. i don't mean in an emotional way but more a sense of disorientation.
 
Morbyd said:
I haven't been to Ibiza since Sep/Oct 2015 but for reasons not connected to my age (work, other destinations, birth of child in '18, pandemic)

Big clubbing nights out at home have been limited for similar reasons. Also, my current crowd is more into standing around bars and what I do feel too old for is going clubbing solo. When I have gone out, stamina or recovery haven't been issues though. I am invincible...

Planning a return to Ibiza this year with my mates to mark 3 of us reaching the big 5-0. :)
(initially thought July but a stupid war and resulting need to get our affairs in order and prepare to relocate pushed it back to likely September)
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i've found that its best to do that at a big festival event
get lost in the crowd and don't stand out
 
Great thread.

I'm 41 now me and the wife, plus another couple of similar age have booked the end of September.
This will be my 7th visit, and I haven't been since 2015 I think.
It has crossed my mind that we are getting over the hill for it and stand out a bit, especially since the youth culture now seems to be social media etc. For example we had some great days/evenings on boat parties and i noticed Cirque du nuit advertsing instigram friendly boat :(
I think we will avoid that one.

Our partying will probably involve more daytime stuff like Bora Bora etc, as others have said the stamina not what it used to be lol
 
I'm 46, I remember going to Ibiza at 30 and feeling 'old' 😆 Now I'd give my right arm to be 30 again. However...I still love clubbing, I dont have the stamina for all nighters so I prefer the day/evening events. (although I dont rule them out, just depends whose on) My friend and I are going in a few weeks and we will be at clubs the majority of our time there. I dont feel old, and I will keep going until I physically cant anymore!!
 
Johnny Vodka said:
I think part of it for me is just nerves after being in isolation and not having travelled or gone clubbing in so long. (I do have a trip to the Netherlands planned before Ibiza, thankfully.) Plus I can't play chicken with my mental health so much these days. Plus just staying up till 2am on a few beers leaves me more noticeably knackered than it used to...
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We'll look after you Johnny
 
I'm late 30s and feel too old now to be clubbing/at afters until sunrise. I'm all about the daytime parties now, that finish maybe at 1am, gives me the option to go to a bar for a few hours or go to bed. As I've got older I've heavily got into fitness and genuinely finding the thought of not making the gym because of a heavy sesh, harrowing. That and missing a hotel breakfast.

To answer the original question, I'll never stop going to Ibiza, what I do there and where I go will just be different. It helps that I look 10 years younger than I am though
 
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