Does monogamy exist?

A wise (non monogamist ex hustler) man once said to me "never shi7 on your own doorstep" and you'll be fine. Not that I've ever wanted to stray, but if I did this is probaably the best bit of advice you could give. ala Robs away on businees alone in a city scenario.


Bigamy is having one wife too many. Monogamy is the same.
Oscar Wilde. :lol:
 
Olly said:
re: - your point about that foreign city, I personally would be extremely wary. You would be thinking, this is too good to be true - there has to be a catch - and a very €xp€nsive catch. Perhaps she has an accomplice ready to cosh you on the head in the hotel room who would then ransack your drawers, everything, the lot whilst you're lying face down in a pool of rioja with your trousers by your ankles - with a lot of explaining to do to a/the cleaner b/the consulate and c/your wife. In fact, I would be so wary, I'd think that even if we were to get jiggy - could I be sure, extra zeros wouldn't appear at the end of the hotel bill afterwds, per act rendered? The whole situation would ooze sleaze from the outset, could you be sure that she wouldn't immediately clock you as a high powered executive - you're in a foreign city on business, in a sharp saville row suit - a possible passport to riches for the sleazy senorita - perhaps there's a camcorder in the corner documenting the lot for future blackmail - what the spanish would call a chantaje - an innocent xmas bunk up with the HR girl at work this ain't.
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My feelings on the matter too..... More than likely a honey trap.

If it Looks too good to be true, it probably is. From experience, I have found this motto a reliable one.

I know its hard........but try not to think with your dick all the time:)
 
weloveliam@space said:
A wise (non monogamist ex hustler) man once said to me "never shi7 on your own doorstep" and you'll be fine. Not that I've ever wanted to stray, but if I did this is probaably the best bit of advice you could give. ala Robs away on businees alone in a city scenario.


Bigamy is having one wife too many. Monogamy is the same.
Oscar Wilde. :lol:
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It was a bad scenario to have quoted really because it pandered to the 'sex is a sin' paradigm - the 'away on business' bit did have a seedy quality to it. :lol:

I should've replaced 'business trip' with 'yoga studio' and 'bird in pub' with 'tantric Goddess'. :lol:

Everyone must research the White Tigress/Jade Dragon/Green Dragon arrangement in Taoist cultures - it's spot on (for the heterosexual arrangement that is - kind of doesn't really apply to me.)

I don't think monogamy or polygamy should exist as labels - what's important is honesty. The moment you anchor a relationship in a rigid framework you don't allow for flow and change.

...bit modern for 2010 perhaps?
 
out of interest, do serial shaggers ever fall in love?

or is love an artificial emotion imposed by monogamy?
 
Robder said:
I don't think monogamy or polygamy should exist as labels - what's important is honesty. The moment you anchor a relationship in a rigid framework you don't allow for flow and change.

...bit modern for 2010 perhaps?
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Yes just a bit. Your liberal type will agree, but on the whole the vast majotiry just arent ready for such arrangements. IMO.

Olly said:
out of interest, do serial shaggers ever fall in love?
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The few serial shaggers I know who have settled down have still strayed when they supposedly met the right one. So to answer your question I dont believe so. Once a slag always a slag. A leopard and all that.
 
this thread just keeps on giving!!

Robder said:
You're away on business alone in a foreign city.

After a hard day you go for a quiet drink and get chatting to a lovely non-Eurotrashy, intelligent, sensual woman (I said that because women aren't generally allowed to be intelligent and sexual at the same time :roll: :lol:) who offers you a no strings invite to her place for an evening. It's a mutually consenting act and no one will ever know.
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pure hollywood style situation!! haha

Robder said:
and her right nork is much bigger than the left one isn't it? :lol:
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pmsl at "nork" and what did you google for the pic "big norks" :lol:

Sirens said:
Robder in the ideal world I would happily love to have "special interests" But in reality do they work?
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i think we got a candidate rob!!

weloveliam@space said:
Bigamy is having one wife too many. Monogamy is the same.
Oscar Wilde. :lol:
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:lol::lol::lol:

Olly said:
or is love an artificial emotion imposed by monogamy?
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deepest **** ever on spotlight!! 8O:?::?:
 
weloveliam@space said:
Your liberal type
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:lol:

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Depends on your definition of love.

Without wanting to sound too w@nky, I would say allowing yourself freedom of thought increases your capacity to love.

Sex and love are two different things - where does lust sit on this scale? It doesn't.

...and who said polygamy can't be respectful? (a religion based culture of supression that's who.*)

* and this isn't aimed at monogomous/happy people - it's aimed at people eaten up with judgements about 'slags' and 'serial shaggers' being lower life forms.

These terms insinuate that these people are fickle addicts, unable to control their own behaviour.

This isn't my experience.
 
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what if you fall in love with various people?




and remain in love with various people?





at the same time :?::!:



there remains this social stigma - that somehow you are disreputable and caddish and a potential bigamist when perhaps the more innocent explanation is that different aspects of different people appeal to you and you find it impossible to elevate one person above another. How is monogamy ever going to be a viable option in this kind of scenario?

which in a roundabout way brings us back to the top of the thread
 
Olly said:
what if you fall in love with various people?




and remain in love with various people?





at the same time :?::!:
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Such is life!

The more honest you are in life - the more useful the mirrors reflected back to work with.

So many 'what ifs' - all based on fear...sod it and do it anyway. (hmm good title for a book forming there)
 
I only brought 'love' into the thread (a rarity for me) because it undermines the idea that everyone is after casual sex wherever they can get it. When people fall in love they can quite easily not notice the existence of any other human life form, irrespective of bikini size

but, then again, what do I know? my life is a continual series of amorous blunders
 
anyway this is getting too heavy

let's get back to the matter in hand

what is the most outlandlish place you've ever f**ked someone in?

a sewer?

a cemetary?

a cable car?

a public records office?

the E3 bus?

the rear toilet on a British Airways 737?

that discreet wood near Cockfosters?

I have only managed one of these :oops:
 
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