Tricky situation
- Thread starter Beckiboo
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Don't say anything to your friend. It really isn't any of your business and I think you will just have to put up with him.
It might cause a rift in your friendship.
When one of my closest friends started seeing this guy 8 years ago, I could not stand him, but I knew I couldn't say anything... now they are married with 2 kids! He has gotten better, but she is my friend and I care about HER so I woudln't want to do or say anything.
I know I wouldn't like it if someone did the same to me!
Unless of course there is abuse going on, then , yes, I would say something.
It might cause a rift in your friendship.
When one of my closest friends started seeing this guy 8 years ago, I could not stand him, but I knew I couldn't say anything... now they are married with 2 kids! He has gotten better, but she is my friend and I care about HER so I woudln't want to do or say anything.
I know I wouldn't like it if someone did the same to me!
Unless of course there is abuse going on, then , yes, I would say something.
Buckley
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For some reason, I'm reminded of this thread:
http://www.spotlight-forums.com/showthread.php?t=28093
http://www.spotlight-forums.com/showthread.php?t=28093
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Beckiboo
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Nothing changed as yet. I seem to be wavering from saying I'm going to ring her and tell her how I feel (normally when drunk) to deciding it's best left alone (when waking up the next morning sober).
Anyway, it wouldn't ever end up like that Buckers, we're not close mates, hence if we were to disagree on this subject, it wouldn't really rock the boat that much.
Anyway, it wouldn't ever end up like that Buckers, we're not close mates, hence if we were to disagree on this subject, it wouldn't really rock the boat that much.
Buckley
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The incident I was recalling didn't involve close friends really. We went down to Brighton for a footy team night and the WAGs all went out together. Too much wine loosened lipped and after one girl took umbrage at some perceived slight about her bloke, she turned around and said 'well, at my xxxx doesn't shag hookers like your xxxx.' The response 'he does and he's been sleeping with her (points at one of the other girls) since last year' did little to calm the situation. Skeleton after skeleton then tumbled out of cupboards and only I and two other footy mates still had girlfriends on our return!
The incident I was recalling didn't involve close friends really. We went down to Brighton for a footy team night and the WAGs all went out together. Too much wine loosened lipped and after one girl took umbrage at some perceived slight about her bloke, she turned around and said 'well, at my xxxx doesn't shag hookers like your xxxx.' The response 'he does and he's been sleeping with her (points at one of the other girls) since last year' did little to calm the situation. Skeleton after skeleton then tumbled out of cupboards and only I and two other footy mates still had girlfriends on our return!
Classic
You just cant beat a good bitch fight......There are no rules!!
Buckley
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Classic
You just cant beat a good bitch fight......There are no rules!!
The journey back from Brighton on the Sunday was a cracker. As each bloke found out he'd been grassed up, the rest got more and more worried.
I rang my then girlfriend to find out why the other girls weren't answering their phones only to be told that something big had happened but it wasn't her place to say what. My mate got a text message from his girlfriend saying 'I know EVERYTHING. Your stuff is outside the front door, including your porn which I found, don't even ring the bell.'
The journey back from Brighton on the Sunday was a cracker. As each bloke found out he'd been grassed up, the rest got more and more worried.
I rang my then girlfriend to find out why the other girls weren't answering their phones only to be told that something big had happened but it wasn't her place to say what. My mate got a text message from his girlfriend saying 'I know EVERYTHING. Your stuff is outside the front door, including your porn which I found, don't even ring the bell.'
Lesson: do not tell anyone, anything.
Facking canaries!
The journey back from Brighton on the Sunday was a cracker. As each bloke found out he'd been grassed up, the rest got more and more worried.
I rang my then girlfriend to find out why the other girls weren't answering their phones only to be told that something big had happened but it wasn't her place to say what. My mate got a text message from his girlfriend saying 'I know EVERYTHING. Your stuff is outside the front door, including your porn which I found, don't even ring the bell.'
...Christ that's hysterical!
Makes me sad though - couples just can't communicate can they? Shall we start a debate about monogamy?
Here goes.
Most people want sex on the side outside of a long term relationship because primal urges can exist outside of the heart space - a fact that should be respected and honoured as it ain't necessarily sordid. < and this in no way invalidates the loyalty and commitment you are showing to a significant other*.
* unless it's not communicated...and sadly no one does - they're all too scared to be relationship pioneers and break the paradigm.
It's nature folks, burn your bibles.
(and I said 'most' which doesn't mean 'all')
...Christ that's hysterical!
Makes me sad though - couples just can't communicate can they? Shall we start a debate about monogamy?
Here goes.
Most people want sex on the side outside of a long term relationship because primal urges can exist outside of the heart space - a fact that should be respected and honoured as it ain't necessarily sordid. < and this in no way invalidates the loyalty and commitment you are showing to a significant other*.
* unless it's not communicated...and sadly no one does - they're all too scared to be relationship pioneers and break the paradigm.
It's nature folks, burn your bibles.
(and I said 'most' which doesn't mean 'all')
Loving the disclaimers
Ikoda
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Rob will not rest until he's turned the board community into a load of debauched swingers tottering into Torture Garden every Sundar dressed in leather
One day...
WeLuvIbiza
Active Member
Rob will not rest until he's turned the board community into a load of debauched swingers tottering into Torture Garden every Sundar dressed in leather
I vote for McRackin to take the photo's
Morbyd
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Rob will not rest until he's turned the board community into a load of debauched swingers tottering into Torture Garden every Sundar dressed in leather
Buckley - that story is golden. 8)
Rob will not rest until he's turned the board community into a load of debauched swingers tottering into Torture Garden every Sundar dressed in leather
Oh Christ no! (rubber
) ...but vanilla is cool too. Def not a swinger here - the thought of an organised sex party makes me shudder.
And honouring a natural drive that is present in us all (and denied by the majority) shouldn't give rise to a negative stereotype.
The incident I was recalling didn't involve close friends really. We went down to Brighton for a footy team night and the WAGs all went out together. Too much wine loosened lipped and after one girl took umbrage at some perceived slight about her bloke, she turned around and said 'well, at my xxxx doesn't shag hookers like your xxxx.' The response 'he does and he's been sleeping with her (points at one of the other girls) since last year' did little to calm the situation. Skeleton after skeleton then tumbled out of cupboards and only I and two other footy mates still had girlfriends on our return!
I tellpeople all the time if more than one person knows you will get stitched up in the end.
