Does anyone else not want kids?

I'd like Kids at some point. I'm an only child, and the only male of my generation with my surname, so I have to have kids to keep it going. But I don't want them for a very long time. Kind of around the age of 30. There is a lot more of this world I want to see, and do, before I settle down.
 
Ikoda said:
. But I don't want them for a very long time. Kind of around the age of 30. There is a lot more of this world I want to see, and do, before I settle down.
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I have news for you Ben, ol' mucker. You'll feel exactly the same at 30. And 37 in fact.
 
Yesterday i commented on an old school friends status....

when we first became fb friends a few years back she had one little baby, i thought fair enough shes gone down that path :roll:

Yesterday he status and comments to follow jst shocked me....shes onto her third baby already and shes 25 8O

I said 'Blimey 3 ?! i havent even thought about baby number 1 yet' to which i got the most shocking comment back - 'Best hurry up Vic were getting old' 8O

I replied 'Piss off, ive still got alot of my life to live yet before i even think about children'

I think she is slightly deluded :roll:
 
Some girls just want to push out sprogs, even from an early age... I guess if you start early, they can be grown up by the time you're in your 40s and you then get time back alone with your partner. Surely having loads of kids around the house must (ironically) destroy your sex/romantic life too? I think I'm too much in to 'me time' for kids, possibly even for a serious relationship.

I'm the last male in the Vodka line, but I see that as no good reason to keep it going. Less people = better for the enviroment. :lol: My biggest worry is that someday I get caught out, but hey ho. ;)
 
One of my closest mates became a dad at 17.

At the time we were both working in bars and studying A levels, then he dropped out of college and got a job to ensure he could look after the little boy (he split up with the mother soon after).

We're both 37 now and his son is at uni in Edinburgh studying Law. (He took us out on the lash in Edinburgh last October:lol:)

I'm just starting out as a Dad and his toughest years as a Dad are well behind him.

He wouldn't change his situation, as neither would I.

My mate is also the MD of a well known financial services company, so his early fatherhood didn't exactly hold him back either!

I think it shows that it's the parent(s) not the circumstances or time of life that make it work!
 
Slight diversion from the plot:

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xxVic-zeexx said:
Yesterday i commented on an old school friends status....

when we first became fb friends a few years back she had one little baby, i thought fair enough shes gone down that path :roll:

Yesterday he status and comments to follow jst shocked me....shes onto her third baby already and shes 25 8O

I said 'Blimey 3 ?! i havent even thought about baby number 1 yet' to which i got the most shocking comment back - 'Best hurry up Vic were getting old' 8O

I replied 'Piss off, ive still got alot of my life to live yet before i even think about children'

I think she is slightly deluded :roll:
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Just depends what you want though doesn't it? Some people haven't got any interest in travelling / partying, they want a family.

One of my friends is 22 and can't wait to settle down. She wants to be married with a baby by the time she's 25. Obviously to me that's crazy as there is soooo much to see and do out there in your 20's, but she has no interest in all that, being a mum is all she's every wanted.

Horses for courses and all that :p
 
Robder said:
Slight diversion from the plot:

PUBLIC NOTICE TO ALL OWNERS OF BABIES>

If you feel it absolutely necessary to post pictures of your offspring or adopted junior on a social networking website, please keep this to a minimum of two pictures.

Your cooperation is appreciated.

Many thanks.

8)
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Obviously 3,000,000 photos of rats is completely fine. ;)
 
Only people who have children can comment with authority on this subject. You cannot describe what Chocolate cake tastes like until you eat it.

For me personally all I can say is that I didnt want kids either. My partner did.

I thought about it long and hard and surmised it was natural progression as a human and as I was always open to trying new experiences and said I would try.

2 months later Our first child was conceived in Ibiza.

It does change your life but in a different way. Its like you move on to a new stage of your life.

Things do change. You cannot be selfish anymore.

Major responsibility for the safety and health a helpless and vunrable person becomes the main driving force of your life.

Lots of stress, lots of sleepless nights lots of adjustments.

But once you get over the first few months and years it all becomes worth it. The better job you do the more return you get back from having kids.

Its very personal to each parent and only the parents involved can describe how wonderful and stressfull the experience can be at the same time.

Im now glad I did have someone to persuade me to have children, otherwise I may have been selfish and just not gone through with it.

It is a roller coaster:) ride
 
I have 4 brothers and 3 sisters, 1 dad and 2 moms (my mom died young). All of kids get along great and we entertained each other when we were younger. I would not suggest you have eight kids unless you have the money for it. My parents gave good guidance and advice . They let us kids make mistakes and learn from them. I'm trying to follow in the foot step of my parents, 8 kids came out alright not bad.
 
I suspect how you feel about children may have some relation to how you grew up, how your parents behaved, your experience of family life, etc.
 
Johnny Vodka said:
Some girls just want to push out sprogs, even from an early age... I guess if you start early, they can be grown up by the time you're in your 40s and you then get time back alone with your partner. Surely having loads of kids around the house must (ironically) destroy your sex/romantic life too? I think I'm too much in to 'me time' for kids, possibly even for a serious relationship.

I'm the last male in the Vodka line, but I see that as no good reason to keep it going. Less people = better for the enviroment. :lol: My biggest worry is that someday I get caught out, but hey ho. ;)
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Too damn right, especially if one of them is old enough to know what you could potetially be up to!

Mrs C and I often joke about booking the Travel Lodge down the road.

I'm lucky to get a T1T rub whilst the missus brushes past when we are doing the washing up:).
 
xxVic-zeexx said:
Yesterday i commented on an old school friends status....

when we first became fb friends a few years back she had one little baby, i thought fair enough shes gone down that path :roll:

Yesterday he status and comments to follow jst shocked me....shes onto her third baby already and shes 25 8O

I said 'Blimey 3 ?! i havent even thought about baby number 1 yet' to which i got the most shocking comment back - 'Best hurry up Vic were getting old' 8O

I replied 'Piss off, ive still got alot of my life to live yet before i even think about children'

I think she is slightly deluded :roll:
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That annoys me too - its like do not dare tell me I am old - it really is each to their own! I find that so insulting.

I know a girl like that - as in she wanted kids by the time she was 25, she is 24 now and has 2 and is about to get married. Her mum had her when she was 16 and has 4 other children so I think in a way you do look at what your parents are like and kind of follow suit - she probably looked at her mum and dad who had her at 16 and are still together and thats what she knows I guess.......
 
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