Who wants Kids?

gfunk said:
Sorry Drew, just realised that my comments could be taken to be a lot more offensive than intended :oops:
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No problem, i didn't take it that way.

Just wanted to make clear my comment in case others may have taken it that way.
 
You know .. sometimes I think I'm a really shite Mum, but we got some old videos down from the loft the other night and watched from when Hannah was born ... I was a disgustingly MUMMY MUM ... I watched myself talking to Hannah as though she could understand me ... playing with her and talking talking talking to her, all the time ... and I realised that hey, when it was needed, I was a brilliant Mum ! One of the reasons my girls are both so good at talking is ME ! :lol: Seriously .. when I was needed to be Mumsy - I was ... I'd forgotten! I've become so used to being the mother of two teenage girls and being stressed and shouty ... even the girls looked at me, mouths agape, and said "Oh Mum, you were a REAL Mum werent you?"

They're so used to me now saying, "If you're hungry, make it yourself" ... but there was me in the video, making baby food from scratch and devoting myself totally to my children !


Tis MY TIME NOW !!
 
Saffy,

For what I've read in the past months I think you are a top mum. Don't forget that to deal everydaywith two teenagers is one of the hardest things in life ;)
 
Drew said:
That wasn't what i was suggesting at all.

I was just wondering whether anyone else considered this important. Obviously, it's not an issue with most people which i find a little surprising.

Shall we discuss this again in another 5 years to see if anyone's opinions have changed?
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I know my opinions won't change, one thing I am 110% certain on in life is that I never want kids.
 
Barbie said:
Drew said:
That wasn't what i was suggesting at all.

I was just wondering whether anyone else considered this important. Obviously, it's not an issue with most people which i find a little surprising.

Shall we discuss this again in another 5 years to see if anyone's opinions have changed?
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I know my opinions won't change, one thing I am 110% certain on in life is that I never want kids.
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You know what .............. i don't believe ya :lol:


;)
 
I never wanted kids .. neither did Mike .. but on deciding to have dogs instead, and purchasing a very cute dachshund puppy called Bazil, we found out that Mike was allergic to dogs ... so Bazil had to go back to where he came from ... :cry:

When friends around me started having babies .. GODDAMIT, I got broody ! I couldnt believe it .. DAMN THOSE HORMONES ... I tried to tell myself that babies were smelly and all they did was poo and cry, but no matter how much I tried to put myself off, those damn hormones kept saying .. "A baby ... a bt of me .. a bit of Mike .. " I even went so far as to shop in Mothercare before even being pregnant !! It wasnt nice I can tell you !! (Have you seen those nursing bras! 8O )

Anyways .. Hannah came along .. and guess what? I had the most awful post natal depression .. believe me, if she could have fit back up there I would have trid to send her back !

It did get better tho ... and our lives changed completely ! Hey, I can say now, I was a super Mum !

It's fun .. but it's the hardest work anyone can ever do I think ! And it never ends ... Hannah has just announced she is getting a tattoo today ... GOD FORBID !

KIDS hey .. who'd have em?!
 
As for continuing bloodlines, it is kind of one of those things that as living creatures we are driven to (not so much bloodlines per se but the continuation of the species), we just analyse it more than, say, a molerat. As animals our priorities are:

1. Survive
2. Procreate

That's about it really. As humans we're blessed with a wonderful brain which allows us to circumvent our natural instincts, but for a lot of people these are instincts that just won't go away.

Personally I do want kids, it's something I feel a craving for at some point in my life. I also have massive sympathies for people who want children but are unable to have them.
 
gfunk said:
I personally think (at the moment & I reserve the right to change my mind) ;) that the world isnt going to be a particularily easy or nice place to live in 50 - 100 years and that has to be taken into account when making such important decisions
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Why do you think that? Life now is alot better than it was 100 years ago!
 
stuie said:
LushCrew said:
I'm the opposite of most people, when I was in my early 20's I really wanted children but as I've got older (just hit 30 last year) I've went off the idea more and more (which is probably just as well as theres very little chance of me having any ;) )
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don't ya ever wonder whether you really don't want any or whether you've just programmed your head to think that? most of the time i'm alright but every now and then i get :(
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Yep thats a possibility Stuie

I've always loved children but as I get older I have found that the urge to have any of my own is lessening, I have 3 older brothers all with families and its obvious that its not all fun and games.

4 of my friends have had babies in the past 6 mths and you sometimes sit and think that thats something you will never experience but at the moment I'm happy with that, I'll just continue to spoil my Nephews and Nieces etc :)
 
KarlosHx said:
gfunk said:
Is that a good reason to bring someone into this world, just to continue your bloodline :?: .
I have had this conversation many times and it keeps coming back to what I think are selfish reasons. I personally think (at the moment & I reserve the right to change my mind) ;) that the world isnt going to be a particularily easy or nice place to live in 50 - 100 years and that has to be taken into account when making such important decisions
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So true.
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We've had this discussion on the board a few times and it really bothers me that people think like this. The world's a great place - there's a lot of terrible stuff happening but nothing, for most people, that means you shouldn't procreate. Think of the best times of your life - being in love, laughing with you funniest mates, or the best night out of your life - if your parents had decided not to have kids, perhaps because of the threat of a global Aids problem, or the possibility of a Nuclear war [insert the particular fear of your generation] - in hindsight, weighing up the best and worst of times in your life, would you rather have not been born?

And is 'bad stuff' really more prevalent? Or does the shrinking of world in terms of information dissemination, and the prediliction for reporting the bad, rather than the good, just make it seem that way?

When the time comes, I'll be having kids because the chance that their life might be as good as mine to date and that not doing So... would deprive them of that, is too big to take. (And that's not because my life is perfect - I have had darker days than my take on all this might suggest. But there's a whole lot of fun to be had, so I intend to do just that.)
*upbeat music plays*couldn't be serious right the way through
 
Buckley said:
We've had this discussion on the board a few times and it really bothers me that people think like this. The world's a great place - there's a lot of terrible stuff happening but nothing, for most people, that means you shouldn't procreate. Think of the best times of your life - being in love, laughing with you funniest mates, or the best night out of your life - if your parents had decided not to have kids, perhaps because of the threat of a global Aids problem, or the possibility of a Nuclear war [insert the particular fear of your generation] - in hindsight, weighing up the best and worst of times in your life, would you rather have not been born?

And is 'bad stuff' really more prevalent? Or does the shrinking of world in terms of information dissemination, and the prediliction for reporting the bad, rather than the good, just make it seem that way?

When the time comes, I'll be having kids because the chance that their life might be as good as mine to date and that not doing So... would deprive them of that, is too big to take. (And that's not because my life is perfect - I have had darker days than my take on all this might suggest. But there's a whole lot of fun to be had, so I intend to do just that.)
*upbeat music plays*couldn't be serious right the way through
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Personally my life hasnt been all that great and i've had to deal with alot of horrible things and my family seem to be in a constant struggle so i wouldnt want to bring a child into the world and them having to experience anything like i have. Thats not the reason i dont want children though, i just dont want them end of. ;)
 
Buckley said:
We've had this discussion on the board a few times and it really bothers me that people think like this. The world's a great place - there's a lot of terrible stuff happening but nothing, for most people, that means you shouldn't procreate. Think of the best times of your life - being in love, laughing with you funniest mates, or the best night out of your life - if your parents had decided not to have kids, perhaps because of the threat of a global Aids problem, or the possibility of a Nuclear war [insert the particular fear of your generation] - in hindsight, weighing up the best and worst of times in your life, would you rather have not been born?

And is 'bad stuff' really more prevalent? Or does the shrinking of world in terms of information dissemination, and the prediliction for reporting the bad, rather than the good, just make it seem that way?

When the time comes, I'll be having kids because the chance that their life might be as good as mine to date and that not doing So... would deprive them of that, is too big to take. (And that's not because my life is perfect - I have had darker days than my take on all this might suggest. But there's a whole lot of fun to be had, so I intend to do just that.)
*upbeat music plays*couldn't be serious right the way through
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I have to disagree on here, BUckley. When you have a baby or you think about it you should consider everything, including the kind of life you can give to that baby and the kind of world the baby will succed (¿?).

I have a nice life but I'm not proud of the world my kids will find. Life is beautiful but this world is everyday a bigger shit
 
hmmmm...growing old with no one around you....your parnter dying..... hmmmm what will we all be thinking then...? :s
 
Ah kids, my dogs are my kids and if you met them you'd think so too!

I'll be at work and say, "my little boy did this" or "my little girl was so sleepy this morning" - if you didn't know better you'd think they were human ... actually, they are 8O :lol:





Ben is going to kill me for this post!
 
KarlosHx said:
Personally my life hasnt been all that great and i've had to deal with alot of horrible things and my family seem to be in a constant struggle so i wouldnt want to bring a child into the world and them having to experience anything like i have. Thats not the reason i dont want children though, i just dont want them end of. ;)
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You just think that sex with women to procreate (or otherwise) is sick and against nature. ;) :lol: Bigot!
 
silvia said:
I have to disagree on here, BUckley. When you have a baby or you think about it you should consider everything, including the kind of life you can give to that baby and the kind of world the baby will succed (¿?).

I have a nice life but I'm not proud of the world my kids will find. Life is beautiful but this world is everyday a bigger shit
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See what your saying Sil - maybe I just see the world through rose tinted glasses. Or I just can't resist there being a little more Buckley in the world! 8)
 
Buckley said:
See what your saying Sil - maybe I just see the world through rose tinted glasses. Or I just can't resist there being a little more Buckley in the world! 8)
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Buckley I do want a little Sil in the world but when the time arrives I think I will think once and twice and consider all the factors. Having a baby is not only bringing a kid to the world, is a resposability for life
 
silvia said:
Buckley said:
See what your saying Sil - maybe I just see the world through rose tinted glasses. Or I just can't resist there being a little more Buckley in the world! 8)
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Buckley I do want a little Sil in the world but when the time arrives I think I will think once and twice and consider all the factors. Having a baby is not only bringing a kid to the world, is a resposability for life
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Hence why I won't be doing it for a while yet Sil and you're right, it's a big decision to be considered very carefully. For the immediate future my cat and rabbit are more than enough responsibility.
 
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