hello people; Advice needed

Ibiza-girlie said:
yeah its difficult ti decide.
I hate not being able to decide whats best, but we´re going with a group of 10 other peeps i´d love to go but it could prove itself risky!
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See how you feel in a few weeks, you don't have to make any decisions yet, it's a cliche but time is a great healer so re-assess the situation closer to the time and then only you know will know if you feel up to it.
 
I agree with stuie!

Go on holiday together, just relax together and perhaps you might realise what you both are going to lose.

Don't stress. Just do what you both think is right.

:D
 
Ibiza-girlie said:
i dont really want to mend things. I know its for the best that we split. But I do want to stay friends.
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I-G I haven;t been married but I have split from someone I lived with for a long time, and my advice is honestly that if you want to remain friends then you need a little bit of space from each other. At the moment it is all too raw, and if you spend time together you'll end up analysing everything the other one says, feeling funny if you see them speak to another guy/girl, feeling guilty if they look a little down.

If you give yourselves a little bit of space to get used to being apart and starting to rebuild your lives, then in a few months you'll be able to meet up at discuss what you had together fondly. ;)
 
I agree with Barbie, take some time out.

I assume everytime you've been to Ibiza over recent years - you've been with your hubby??

Going together, but not as a couple will be difficult for at least one of you....and that could lead to problems. Especially with lots of drink and close proximity for a week or two in Ibiza.

Your friends are probably worried about it too...but are too polite to say.

You could always persuade him not to go.... or hide his passport the night before. ;)

Either way, I wish you all the best - it's a difficult thing to go through.
 
thanks mark, B and u all.
Yeah there are a lot of things to think about.
I´m gonna make my final one on this in the beginning of July. This is the most sensible thing to do.

L :-)
 
Hi IG really sorry to hear your news :(
I split from an ex once and we still went on hol together with a group of mates. The thing was though it turned out he only went cos he still loved me and thought we would sort things out, I went thinking how great it was we could stay mates!

I think as long as it's 100% that you BOTH want to only be friends it could be fine to go away together, if not it could all be uncomfertable for both you two and your friends.

Hope you are OK
 
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