Does anyone else not want kids?

No, you're not alone JV .. can barely afford what I have to pay towards keeping everyone else's in Britain ;)
 
I wouldn't mind and I applaud those that do*.

* that part was so I don't get shot down by the 2.4 children masses. :lol:

But I don't think it's for me.

There are many reasons for having kids. Some do it because 'that's what you do' (social conditioning) and others do it because they're desperate to give back in some way and channel all their ancestral learnings into a youngster (which so long as it's not controlling is applaudable).

...BUT FFS STOP BREEDING. WE'RE IN THE MIDDLE OF A POPULATION EXPLOSION AND FRANKLY I'M BORED OF COO-ING AT BABIES THROUGH GRITTED TEETH. WHYYYY DO WE ALL THINK IT'S OK TO DO THIS WITHOUT THINKING?

CAN'T WE ALL JUST ENJOY SEX WITHOUT THIS END GOAL IN MIND?

Just a small point. Nothing I feel passionate about or anything. :lol:
 
Actually, I'm downright terrified... a previous pregnancy scare was one of the most terrifying 48 hrs of my life.
 
Weird you should post this actually as I found out today that a mate at work is going to be a dad today and he seems ok with it haha not much choice really !! :)
 
I didn't really want kids, but always assumed "one day". Unfortunately I never seemed to get that feeling I was ready to have children. My issue was that I was too selfish with my time, and couldn't see room to fit anything else in without sacrificing some "lifestyle".

In Ibiza 2004 outside Cafe Mambo, Mrs Jam reminded me that I was already past 30, and if I was serious about having a family, how old exactly did I want to be?

A few drinks and around 9 Months later, Mini Jam I was born (middle name Antoni ;) )

First to admit I struggled for over a year with the change in life, but now there's 2 of them, and I'm glad we had them.



In summary - she was right (as usual).
 
I'm in the not having kids bracket, have never wanted kids at anytime I've been in a relationship as well, to the point where relationships have broken down because of it, not a bad thing tbh when you see some of the ladies I've been seeing:lol:

My reason for not wanting them is that I enjoy my life as it is, as deep down I'm still a big kid myself and have never ever felt responsible enough to be a daddy:roll:

Friends say I would make a good Dad, can't see it myself:lol:
 
Pros and Cons like anything in life.

It's not for some and it is for others.

It's an emotive subject, because it's a very personal choice.

It annoys me when people are either too "Anti-children" or too much the "Precious parent".

But i guess I echo Jam Man in that if you're gonna do it, don't leave it too late!
 
I found out in April that I'm going to be an uncle this autumn (fingers crossed all goes well)

So... no more pressure on me to continue the bloodline :D :lol:

I think I want kids eventually... but if I keep saying eventually as I have for the past 10 years, I will soon run out of time :lol:
 
The only pro I see with having them is you wont be lonely when you get old and it would be nice to have family to look after you.
 
c00kiemonster said:
I'm in the not having kids bracket, have never wanted kids at anytime I've been in a relationship as well, to the point where relationships have broken down because of it, not a bad thing tbh when you see some of the ladies I've been seeing:lol:

My reason for not wanting them is that I enjoy my life as it is, as deep down I'm still a big kid myself and have never ever felt responsible enough to be a daddy:roll:

Friends say I would make a good Dad, can't see it myself:lol:
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Not sure what my issue is exactly. My parents had quite a rough divorce. I also find it hard enough to look after myself. :lol: End result anyway is that whatever makes people want to have kids just isn't in me, in fact I find the idea quite scary. I'd almost say it could get in the way of me finding a good relationship eventually, but I know a high number of females in their 30s/40s that haven't bred (and quite a few that have stopped at one :lol:). I always assumed the pressing need for kids was more a female thing; I don't think there's a male equivalent of broody.
 
I go through phases of really really wanting them (thats a woman thing for sure), to phases of not feeling ready and not being financially secure. We are no way in a position to have them financially - although some people (mother in laws) are soooo quick to tell you that you "make do somehow"

I have to say at the moment I am in a phase of not wanting them yet - I still feel there is so much more I want to do in life before I properly settle down - as to me once you have kids that is PROPERLY settling down
 
I have two sons glad I had them. It was not planed by me anyway. I was married so you just adjust your life to make them the most important thing. I do miss last minute vacation plans to Ibiza. Overall it is a personal choice, I love my sons so much I just look at both of them and they make me smile.
 
djjaycool said:
I have two sons glad I had them. It was not planed by me anyway. I was married so you just adjust your life to make them the most important thing. I do miss last minute vacation plans to Ibiza. Overall it is a personal choice, I love my sons so much I just look at both of them and they make me smile.
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Yes I think its hard to comment unless you actually have them - I know so many friends who have had them and say its changed their life but in a different yet good way. And that they would do anything for their children and that there is no other love like it.

So it does sound good :lol:
 
Crispy Duck said:
The only pro I see with having them is you wont be lonely when you get old and it would be nice to have family to look after you.
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POINT!
See all of you without kids, when the only visit you have at the hospital is the "Taking care robot" which they will invent in 2035.
Hopefully they make sure to also send you the "love and talk robot", otherwise it could get pretty boring.
 
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