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I've recently plucked up the courage to start dating again :oops: and I've met and had a great date with an absolute dish (tall, dark, handsome, fit, happy go lucky like myself) ;)
I'm real chuffed that he would like to see me again :D

But...over the past month my ex fiancee has been in contact :? We had lunch together and it was very amicable. Now he's been in conatct again asking to meet 8O :?

I know I shouldn't but I fell a lil uncomfy with the situ, but then again its not as though I'm seeing my ex on a "romantic" light.

Do you think I'm worrying un-necessarily :?:
 
I think you need to look at what caused you to break up with your ex and the time you guys have been apart. Has it been a week, a few months or years...
The reason i say this is because u might not be looking at him in a romantic way any more but who is not to say he is trying to see if anything is there... yeah sure the first few times he might not show it but the more you see him he might get the courage to try and get you back..plus he really might get jealous that you are dating...and that right there would tell you he still is interested in rekindling what you two once had...

my advise if you still love him and the issues that broke u up are work able then go ahead see him here and there and see what happens...

but if you in no way wanna be with him and its only been a short time you have been apart then try and keep your distance..you dont wanna lead him on...

Good luck ...and remember you will make the right decision for yourself cause you know you relationship with him... follow your gut
 
I agree with most of what Rosie said. I want to know what your ex-fiancee's intentions are. Try an' sort that out, as well as any unsettled feelings you may have concerning him. In the meantime, have fun with Mr. New and keep an open mind... see where it goes babe.

OOOOH tall dark and handsome... just the way I like 'em :P :P :P :P Purrrrr. Go jinxie!!! 8)
 
pacha made a good point...u should go out and explore meeting new people... it is a healthy thing to do..sometimes you might end up realizing that your ex is really not what you want or maybe exactly what you want...

Go out wit your girls too...have fun just doing u... focus on your goals and things...because if you just got out of a serious relationship the you need serious you time to just focus on yourself... meet new people if you like but dont get yourself worked up to fast....ok...
 
I'm in a similar situation. My situation is, a girl who wanted me, who was the absolute opposite to anything I ever wanted, we became friends, and I fell in love with her, even though, shes nothing I ever wanted.. Anyways, Now I've found the girl who is absolutely perfect in everyway for me, the girl of my dreams. And shes interested in me. But I cant stop thinking about the girl whose nothing I ever wanted. Im not seeing either of them so nobodys getting hurt cept my heads hardcore f***ed right now.

Though with that, its my ex's I turned to for advice on this matter. Because if theres anyone who knows you from a romantic view point, its an ex, thats why I stay friends with them. They can tell me where Im shit at performing :lol:
 
Sare i think you should leave the ex well alone, he hurt you, does he really deserve your valuable time??

Tell him to leave you alone and get on with your life ;)
 
you know really what ever decision you make to stay in contact or to leave...its your decision and it will be the right decision for you...and even if it turns out to be the wrong choice it still will be a learning experience for you and that will always be valuable.

I know i just have gone through it with my man... i mean i left him because i felt like he wasn't really ready to commit but you know what... i really love him and i needed to make the decision to give up or fight for him... and you know what... when your really in love and you believe in your love then the decision will be right...
 
found myself in exact same situation last year. the ex was putting pressure on me while i was seeing a girl about a month after we split up. i stuck it out though, now my ex is shacked up with some guy with his kid. i know the next thing i will hear is she is preggers or getting married. i miss her really badly, but i still think i did the right thing. only time will tell. sometimes i get the feeling i wont meet anyone else like her, and i have an urge to go out on the lash. but the way i am trying to look on things, is that at least i can be my own person now, and i swear i'll only get involved with someone who has a similar outlook on life as me, cause sadly me and the ex didnt (6 years 8O)
 
yeah i feel that...my situation is really ridiculous...well i hope nobody looks at me wrong but my relationship did not start off the way i had hoped...

I have a daughter and her father was or should i say thought he was the best thing and then little by little i saw how he did not care... he ended up having another kid just one year difference from my daughter... i was heartbroken and tried to follow my head but went with my heart got back with him and hoped for the best...he promised and promised...and one day i went to see him after i gave him about 1300 for his son out of the kindness of my heart since i knew he was trying to get custody and he needed a place to show the court... and this guy just got up and left...walked out on us and moved to vegas with a stripper...i was devastated...well here is where it got interesting...his best friend was a really cool guy and when we all use to hang out with one another i really got a chance to see what a good and wonderful guy he was...well after my ex had walked out on me i discovered that he had planned everything and that 1300 i gave him which i got off a cash advance was actually the back due childsupport he was forced to pay out of his taxes...i was devasted and was desperate to let him know i know what he did...so...someone suggested i call his friend and talk to him because he knows my ex the best...so i did and his friend was understanding and supportive and offered to talk if i ever needed to let da stress out...

well...i started to hang out with him from time to time...but i noticed i started to catch feelings and this was so immoral to me i just cut it off...but then months later we started to hang out again from time to time...and again the feelings were there this went on and off for two years...then i finally realized that though the situation is really wrong and i felt like a bad person...i decided to go with my heart and stop worring about what my ex is going to say...and i said to myself i cant pass up this chance to see if there really is something there...well i told him how i felt and he knew and was interested but felt that he needed to clear things up with my ex out of respect..and my ex of course was all for it since i wasnt nothing to him in his eyes...well we went for it...and its going on three years...and Harry has turned out to be the best thing to ever happen to me...and it is hard because of the situation but he is a stand up guy who took his time with me and waited to even kiss me for over 2 to 3 months after we started seeing each other...Sometimes your heart knows what is best even though your head tells you other wise...

of course, now that we are happy my ex is upset since his relationship isnt working out from what i hear and has now changed his mind about his approving my relationship with harry... and it sucks because i feel as though i need to prove to everyone im a good person but i just feel in love with somone i shouldnt have but i cant change the way i feel...though some of you think im wrong also ...we really love one another and he has been more of a father to my daughter than her dad who has not cared to look back for her after he left... I love him and sometimes love with fix the feeling of confusion ...in my case i took a chance and have gained the world instead.
 
Thanks everyone(sorry for delay been on my jollies), to answer your question...I split with my ex Dec 03 :!: Didn't tell him I was going away, and he text me asking to meet for lunch again. I just gave a very vague answer.

I don't know why we split, I think that maybe he gave himself cold feet as he was making future plans & we hadn't long gotten engaged :(

But anyway I've changed alot since then, so he would have a nasty shock :twisted:

So they can all buzz off for them moment as its my birthday this week, and I'm going to enjoy it with good unselfish company :D
 
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