Marriage - non christians

mambobirdette said:
What are your views on marriage??

Do you believe in it or do you just see it as a peice of paper??
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I am an agnostic so we didnt have a church wedding - we went to Hawaii to do the deed (which was fantastic of my Mr PL as he is a Catholic and did that for me as I didnt want a church do)

We got married alone, because it was something we wanted to do for just us, it was a private ceremony, no party, or anything, we just said our vows to each other in a beautiful Hawaiian ceremony (more earthly than heavenly):lol:

The next day - I woke up and felt complete (sorry it sounds so vomit inducing but I really did feel different)

I loved my wedding day , and next year we go back to renew our vows for our 10th anniversay.......
 
I belive in the personal project that Pep and I share and we are totally commited to this.
After three years sharing life with him I don't think marriage would change anything "vital" in our relationship except for that legal rights you don't have living together.
 
I definitely believe in it, I wouldn't want a big wedding but I think it's really special committing yourself to someone for the rest of your life, and I know you can do that in other ways and don't have to neccessarily be married but I think it's just the icing on the cake :D
 
Congratulations on your 10yr anniversary PL :)

Your wedding day sounded blissful, i've always wanted a beach wedding and for it to be just the two of us too.

Im having a very hard time trying to explain to Joey what marriage means to me being a non christian an all. I just dont think he wants to get married to me full stop :lol: :lol:, dont blame him really :lol:.

Maybe im old fashioned and want to do things properly but i do someday want to have a husband and someone that i can be proud of to say this is my husband and these are our children.
 
Sorry, but after watching the movie The War of Roses with Michael Douglas and Kathleen Turner I have make my decision: I will never married !
 
mambobirdette said:
Maybe im old fashioned and want to do things properly but i do someday want to have a husband and someone that i can be proud of to say this is my husband and these are our children.
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Mambo, to have children you need a man, not a husband 8O :lol: :lol: ;)


We are going to get married at some point due that legal rights, I don't know in the UK but here in Spain if you have kids or properties like a house you better get married.
When that moment arrive, I am not going to wear in white looking like a big cake, it would be a very very informal party in somewhere we like, not necessary a weedings place. If the off 52 was bigger I would love to celebrate it there :D
 
mambobirdette said:
Congratulations on your 10yr anniversary PL :)

Your wedding day sounded blissful, i've always wanted a beach wedding and for it to be just the two of us too.

Im having a very hard time trying to explain to Joey what marriage means to me being a non christian an all. I just dont think he wants to get married to me full stop :lol: :lol:, dont blame him really :lol:.

Maybe im old fashioned and want to do things properly but i do someday want to have a husband and someone that i can be proud of to say this is my husband and these are our children.
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Thank you.... its been a fabulous 15 years together (10 married).

Mr PL was not all together convinced by marriage either, but I just discussed with him what it meant to me, and about 6 months later, after I had totally forgotten the discussion he just proposed to me - I told him he was pissed and to ask me when he was sober..... I woke up in the morning with him standing over me saying "so will you marry me?":oops: :lol:

The wedding itself nearly didnt happen at all, the day before the wedding we went out to look at the site the planner had chosen for us and I was like 8O - it was smack bang in the middle of a public park, next to a municipal BBQ area in front of a Marine's Basketball Court (We had specified somewhere, green, lush, tranquil and romantic at sunset) I was nearly in tears..... we rang her to say we were cancelling unless she actually found somewhere that actually fitted our spec. We spent the morning of the wedding driving round Oahu looking for somewhere, getting more and more disheartened. We ended up in a gorgeous area called Diamond Head - (a sort of Beverley Hills of Hawaii) and I said to her "Do you know anyone who lives round here?" She advised she did so I told her to go knock on their door and ask if they would allow us to marry in the garden. It turns out her friend was this little old lady, in bed after a hip replacement operation who said she would be honoured to have us marry in her garden.... It was absolutely beautiful, she was one of our witnesses, lying in her orthapedic bed in front of her french windows watching us marry:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: (she even had her gardener tidy up the garden and lay a rose petal heart for us to stand in for our vows..... the photos are gorgeous and it was the perfect setting - exactly what we asked for!!)Phew!!!!!!!

PS the only "payment" the old lady would take for us using her garden was a bottle of Black Label Smirnoff Vodka - respect!!!!!:D :D
 
I'm not at all religous but i think marriage is beautiful and will marry some day.

In todays culture marriage is about showing your commitment to each other (and a good excuse for a party!!) :D
 
People of all religions and nationalities get married- its nothing to do with christianity or even religion unless you want to include that element.
 
puppylover said:
Thank you.... its been a fabulous 15 years together (10 married).

Mr PL was not all together convinced by marriage either, but I just discussed with him what it meant to me, and about 6 months later, after I had totally forgotten the discussion he just proposed to me - I told him he was pissed and to ask me when he was sober..... I woke up in the morning with him standing over me saying "so will you marry me?":oops: :lol:

The wedding itself nearly didnt happen at all, the day before the wedding we went out to look at the site the planner had chosen for us and I was like 8O - it was smack bang in the middle of a public park, next to a municipal BBQ area in front of a Marine's Basketball Court (We had specified somewhere, green, lush, tranquil and romantic at sunset) I was nearly in tears..... we rang her to say we were cancelling unless she actually found somewhere that actually fitted our spec. We spent the morning of the wedding driving round Oahu looking for somewhere, getting more and more disheartened. We ended up in a gorgeous area called Diamond Head - (a sort of Beverley Hills of Hawaii) and I said to her "Do you know anyone who lives round here?" She advised she did so I told her to go knock on their door and ask if they would allow us to marry in the garden. It turns out her friend was this little old lady, in bed after a hip replacement operation who said she would be honoured to have us marry in her garden.... It was absolutely beautiful, she was one of our witnesses, lying in her orthapedic bed in front of her french windows watching us marry:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: (she even had her gardener tidy up the garden and lay a rose petal heart for us to stand in for our vows..... the photos are gorgeous and it was the perfect setting - exactly what we asked for!!)Phew!!!!!!!

PS the only "payment" the old lady would take for us using her garden was a bottle of Black Label Smirnoff Vodka - respect!!!!!:D :D
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Wow that sounds absolutley beautiful, am wiping a tear from my eye :lol:

Bless Mr PL and his proposal :lol: :lol:

I think Joey is probably a little scarred and i dont blame him at all, im not saying that i want to get married now either but he doesnt quite understand my logic for wanting to get married. He wont accept the commitment thing either. Maybe its different for a girl, the whole knowing that 'he's' your husband just appeals and makes me feel all gushy.
 
indoctrinated as a kid in the catholic faith but don't believe it now.

we got married for financial, legal, inheritance reasons really. Also, we knew that we'd get married at some stage so we thought we may as well take the cash hit now.

we did the legal thing in a registry office in jeans and t-shirts with just 2 people for witnesses. (getting married in ibiza for non-residents is a nightmare)

And then we had the proper thing in ibiza with loads of family and friends and not a hint of tradition in sight;). Outside in the ibicenco sunshine trumps church pomp everytime.:lol:
 
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mambobirdette said:
Maybe its different for a girl, the whole knowing that 'he's' your husband just appeals and makes me feel all gushy.
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I don't think it is a girly thing, most of my girlies friends would look like this 8O 8Oif I ask them when are they going to get married, and I also know few boys who really want to get married and it was them who convinced their girlfriends for that ;)
 
its basically 2 people saying

"you know what, I love you, I want to spend my life with you, I dont want anyyone else, Ill share everything Ive got, Ill look after you, look out for you and always do right by you" and as a token of this love I will enter into a lawful binding agreement and also get up in front of everyone we know and prove it. then we will have a wicked party afterwards!!

got sod all to do with religion!! ;)
 
Please don't get me wrong. I am in no way against Marriage. I have just seen a lot of people get married because "It was then next thing to do". Thats all.
 
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