Living Together

MARKB said:
Don't worry about it. This has happened to everyone I know,
(except myself - apparently she never knows where she stands with me which I think means every day is new and exciting - so that's nice)

...but the trick is to make sure you don't accept this situation.

A good screaming match alway sorts it out. Make sure your fella's home at the time though. Or it sort of misses the point.

At least he goes to the gym still. Could be worse he could just be a fat lazy bastard. Go out for the day, even if it's just to the Park or something. And make each other laugh!! Seriousness is a fatal disease.

Or buy a cat, that will give you a common focus for your affections and you will see if he has a parental instinct.

I now have ten cats. And no kids. But we never have time to argue, we're too busy defleaing the house.
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:lol::lol::lol: ya funny fecker you:lol::lol::lol:
 
My partner and I have lived together since a week after we met and things with us are still fantastic and we're almost 7 years in....

But it does require work. Flowers or little gifts when you get home from work and cooking or going out for romantic meals does wonders for us. But even quiet nights at home together are very important too. Have a candlelit bath together, take a walk along the Thames (if you're in London!) after work when all the lights start to come on, go to the theatre together, find a nice wine bar and sample some new flavours... it's all those little things that I remember and love most about living with my hubby!
 
Maybe printing this off and showing him you care enough to solicit advise from strangers on the net would help? Yes, definitely in fact. Show him tonight and report back tomorrow.;)
 
like the wise Kang said.

Mrs Russ and I have been together 11yrs now and we are still 'dating'
 
Its very important to not let a relationship go stale and become samey.
Communication is always the key!

Lots of good ideas coming from people on the board and doing something different doesnt have to cost money.

Arrange to meet him at a bar as opposed to going places together, then he has the anticipation of watching the door waiting for you to arrive... dress up to nines and bowl him over.

Leave messages under his windscreen wiper or send him random texts/emails through the day just saying that your thinking about him. Once you start doing something so will he.. (hopefully!)

When us kids all left home, i remember my mum and dad looking at each other saying 'what we going to talk about now' cos us kids had been there life for the last twenty odd years. now they are dating again and have fallen in love all over again cos they make time for each other and time for themselves which is also important. They've been married 37 years in September!

Saying that i should listen to my own advice having just become single again after 3 years :evil:!! but then we never even managed to live together and obviously everything was his fault :lol:.
 
Seems like you guys are putting a lot of the onus on Pinky to do whatever it takes to make things more exciting.... notes, plans, dinners, etc. etc.... why should she take on all the responsibility for making their lives exciting?!? You probably need to have a chat and get him involved as well. Men aren't psychic... he might not realize there's a problem.

Aside from that, even with "dates" and the like, there is a major difference in a relationship when you're living together than when you first meet. You can't expect everything to be the same as it was. Find a new equlibrium.
 
Morbyd said:
Seems like you guys are putting a lot of the onus on Pinky to do whatever it takes to make things more exciting....
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I got the impression that its Pinky that not's particularly happy with the situation...(The other half may be perfectly happy) so by rights, Pinky needs to kick start it, though you're right, you can't expect one person to make all of the effort...been there, drains the life out of you....
 
That's why I was advocating having a talk... he might not know that Pink's not happy with the situation. Who knows... maybe he'll make the effort himself if he better understood what's up... or at least meet her half way.
 
Morbyd said:
That's why I was advocating having a talk... he might not know that Pink's not happy with the situation. Who knows... maybe he'll make the effort himself if he better understood what's up... or at least meet her half way.
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I agree completely....

Nothing worse than being in a relationship if your partner is not happy and doesn't tell you, you see the signs, ask the questions and they say "nothing" you carry on blissfully unaware that they might just dump you for reasons not explained.... it's a brain f*ck....

Coming on here to explain the problem to unknowns, shows that Pink really cares, I'm sure it'll be fine...
 
My boyfriend and I found that when we moved in together we didn't make as much of an effort to do different things anymore. While on holiday though I read a book called Alphabet weekends and we've now started to do this - it works where you each have a letter of the alphabet and you do an activity or go to a place which starts with that letter, this is what we've done so far:

A - Alton Towers
B- Boat race
C - Comedy Club
D - Dorset to Monkey World
E- Elvis night
F- French restaurant
G- Go Ape (tree-top assault course in Bracknell)

It's really made us think more about doing fun things as a couple rather than sitting in the flat all the time and watching TV. I'd recommend anyone trying this.
 
Cath - T said:
My boyfriend and I found that when we moved in together we didn't make as much of an effort to do different things anymore. While on holiday though I read a book called Alphabet weekends and we've now started to do this - it works where you each have a letter of the alphabet and you do an activity or go to a place which starts with that letter, this is what we've done so far:

A - Alton Towers
B- Boat race
C - Comedy Club
D - Dorset to Monkey World
E- Elvis night
F- French restaurant
G- Go Ape (tree-top assault course in Bracknell)

It's really made us think more about doing fun things as a couple rather than sitting in the flat all the time and watching TV. I'd recommend anyone trying this.
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I = Ibiza... ;)
 
Of course the alternative is a famous country and western song....

D..
I...
V...
O...
R...
C...
E...

:lol:
 
RetroHoney said:
...now they are dating again and have fallen in love all over again cos they make time for each other and time for themselves which is also important. They've been married 37 years in September!

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Tell them conratulations from all of us here at spotlight 8)8)8)...Most of our parents generation have certainly got this relationship stuff locked down....

Oh and it was my folks 37th anniversary this year too.8O

Shhweet;)
 
coley said:
Tell them conratulations from all of us here at spotlight 8)8)8)...Most of our parents generation have certainly got this relationship stuff locked down....

Oh and it was my folks 37th anniversary this year too.8O

Shhweet;)
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My folks just marked 38 years last week.

It is pretty amazing how long they've all stuck with it, isn't it?
 
My parents just hit the 32 mark... and as others have said, they seem so much mroe 'romantic' now that my brothers and i have left home., going out for dinners, weekends away... my dad can't walk by my mum these days without copping a feel!:)
 
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