Friend's dilema

[utagaura]

Silvia, I'll echo what everyone else has said... its YOUR day, and I think your friends are being very immature and clearly showing her insecurities because an ex will show up. We all have to see our exes at some point after we break up for one reason or another.
No one is going to force them to have an hour long conversation...besides, they should be focusing on YOU and Pep, not some other guests!

To me it sounds like something a 13 year old would do

I hope everything works out for you and everyone behaves like mature adults!

 

[sexki11en]

My 2 pence worth is if after a year and a half this is still an issue - it shows how childish Pep's friend is. Much as it will hurt Pep, you have nothing to back down over. He can play the best friend card, but if he was a true best friend he wouldn't be trying to ruin your big day like this. Call his bluff - when he realises you guys won't budge, he will probably still come - tail between his legs.

Congratulations by the way

 

[ibiza_lou]

Thanks everyone.
For a moment we thought we were the "bad ones" by inviting her. The problem is that he is making note he is pep's bestfriend and he has a kind of priority in the wedding and if someone should be left out it's her, but it's him he has the problem and very serious, btw
If it was one of my bestfriends I'd be very very disappointed

Im a bit late with this but completely agree with everyone.....I went to a wedding last summer with my bfriend and knew his ex was going to be there with her new bloke....apparantly the ex didnt want me there as Id only been on the "scene" about a year but of course I went...stupid bint.

It wasnt a great feeling knowing that she was there but hell would I never ruin the brides day by being a baby.....I looked far more of a layyyyydeeee by being polite whilst she gave me evils! Thanks again to puppylover for the advice!!!

You are definitely not the bad ones....its your bloody day.....and shame on them for behaving like this! :x :x

 

[Morbyd]

Sil, at my brother's wedding 4 years ago there were:
- 2 of my ex-girlfriends, one of whom is the sister of the bride (and officiator of the wedding ceremony )
- 2 of the bride's ex-boyfriends, one of whom was her man-of-honor and another who came with his new wife
- 1 of my brother's ex-girlfriends with her husband and child

How's that for a telenovella?

Everyone got along very well (though I think Irina thought we were all crazy ). In fact, most people seemed happy to see each other at such a nice occasion.

At the end of it all, as everyone noted above, it's your friggin' day so they need to put their petty issues aside and act like adults!

 

[silvia]

Thanks everyone, for a moment we thougth we had been insensitive by inviting the ex, we needed a bit of a "popular agreement"

We have decided to not do anything. Pep will have a serious talk with him advising that we are not going to resolve THEIR problem, if they think we are bad friends cos we haven't take party for him we think they are bad friends by pulling us in such a situation.

I don't know what's going to happend with it I just hope the relation between him and Pep doesn't end damaged... if that was any of my close friends who pulls me in this situation I think it would change things forever more