advice for friends wedding

all things concidered, sure we have. but I cant help but say. he as invited for the WHOLE thing with us, and sure it might be shallow but I only expect the same thing in return...maybe not the dinner and so on, I would respect him for only wanting 33 peeps around which is his family....

but...again. Ive said it many times now. Wej ust feel like he wants us to come, hand ove the present and take off.
 
To be honest, IG, I don't think there's too many differences between a traditional wedding in Spain and a traditional wedding in your country.
The most shocking thing is that you don't respect your friend's decision. I have friends who decided to have a very intimate wedding with just the family and the closest friends and it's fine for me and I even make them a nice pressie cos it's about they are getting married, not about the party and the oportunity to get a new fancy dress
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I don't think it's a cultural difference, I know people in UK who have had the biggest most elaborate wedding you could think and invited every man and his dog and then I know people who for whatever reason have wanted something much low-key with just immediate family there. It's entirely to do with the individuals getting married and people should respect that.
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I think so too, I know many people who gets married with big dinner parties and some they don't.
I also think you have been invited to the better part of the wedding, the ceremony wich is what's all about, the part when two people decides to be together in this life.
 
You always find at weddings, christenings or even funerals friends who want and try to be a part of the whole celebration or occasion.

The real friends are always in the background being supportive when required.
 
Haha, Ibiza-G' getting quite a Smackdown!!!

Let's not be too hard on her, let's face it, sod the boring ceremony, wedding receptions are fckuing wicked. end of.

I'd be gutted if there was one going on and I wasn't there, especially if it was one of my best mates!
 
Ibiza-girlie said:
i dont think you can generalise like that and say the best friends are the ones in the background bla bla bllllaaaah nonsence!
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No, best friends are the ones who got furious cos you don't invite them to the funny part of the wedding :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
 
what????
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just asking honestly.
because it seems like you are misunderstnding on purpose!

We are ALL very hurt, 15 people. not just the nine of us in the group. all his friends have called, we have discussed and we find it utterly weird! since he has always attended every party, wedding, christianing and so on....i know some of you must have felt the same if you were in that situation

so i guess he has 15 "not best" friends he has known since childhood!!! :roll: :roll: :roll: :roll: :roll:
 
Ibiza-girlie said:
what????
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just asking honestly.
because it seems like you are misunderstnding on purpose!

We are ALL very hurt, 15 people. not just the nine of us in the group. all his friends have called, we have discussed and we find it utterly weird! since he has always attended every party, wedding, christianing and so on....i know some of you must have felt the same if you were in that situation
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NO I think is you who is missunderstanding what I'm saying.
My first comment was: i don't invite, make presents or whatever expecting something back. And for what you are saying it seems you invited people to your large wedding expecting be invited in the future.

And who said I haven't been to that situation? 8O I do have friends who only organised "party" for family and I was really happy to attend the ceremony in the city hall. And later on (not in the middle of the street) I gave them my present.

In my opinion, a good friend respects other's decisions, even tho if does it mean not going to a wedding party.
 
we do "respect" it in the way that we won´t make a surprise attack on the dinner party lol* ;)
but it´s just that it would be natural to assume being invited in the future for some kind of celebration ,regardless of the spending costs ect ect....
I think a lot of people feel and think like this.

but i dont take it personally, i would if it was just me that hadnt been invited. he has just decided not to do this with his friends around. whcih i could never do, because my friends mean the world to me and i would want to celebrate this with them, whcih I did.
 
seriously, IG, if you didn't want our honest advice then why did you ask for it? the general consensus seems to be that its up to your friend how he plans his wedding, and that you and your friends should accept their wishes.

whether or not you choose to heed our advice is up to you, but i really hope that you find a amicable solution with your friends. the groom is gonna be super stressed enough without you and your friends being off with him. hes about to make the biggest commitment of his life. support him!
 
Ibiza-girlie said:
because my friends mean the world to me and i would want to celebrate this with them, whcih I did.
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because thats what you wanted to do, but if you wanted to do it the way your friend is then you could of! ;)
 
I-G I think you cannot expect that a friend of yours celebrates his wedding acording to: my friends had celebrated big parties so I suppose to do a big party or a smaller one to turn them the invitation. You friend is free to do his wedding his way and not according to your way. Maybe you and your 15 friends have the same ideas od what it's supposed to be a wedding but your friend don't seem to think the same. So his free to do as he wishees, if I were you I would trie to understand his point, I don't think is so dramatic an unforgivable to do a wedding and a little dinner partie with his family. Think you have been invited to the best part of the wedding.
 
We are ALL very hurt, 15 people. not just the nine of us in the group. all his friends have called, we have discussed and we find it utterly weird! since he has always attended every party, wedding, christianing and so on....i know some of you must have felt the same if you were in that situatio
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I-G this is like saying that if when your friends start to get married or having babys one of them do a big party to celebrate and you are invited and you attend, and after lots of your friends does exactly the same, when is your turn you have to do the same or don't go to any of their parties because you are not going to do it this way, so in the end I think that some people my feel in the obligation to do some sort of wedding just to like other people or not upset some friends or even their family, I think your friend is really brave to do as he wishes instead of what people expect of him. Really I know people that gets married this way and I am still their friend.
 
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