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I am about to send out my Wedding invites and have just been informed/told by my mother in Law to be that it's the height of bad maners to include the gift list with it, and she once nearly didn't go to a friends wedding because they did this.
I really thought this was normal, what do you reakon? am I a rude cow?
 
sandi said:
I am about to send out my Wedding invites and have just been informed/told by my mother in Law to be that it's the height of bad maners to include the gift list with it, and she once nearly didn't go to a friends wedding because they did this.
I really thought this was normal, what do you reakon? am I a rude cow?
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I don't know in the UK but I've only get a gift list attached to the invite once, actually it was an account number, and I found it really really unpolite and shocking. YOu can't make for sure your guessts will make you a present ;)
 
but we are marrying in Ibiza so we cant have 85 people all bringing gifts in boxes as we will have no way of getting them back to the UK.
 
Every wedding over the past few years I have attended have included a gift list - I think it seems sensible (how many toasters can one couple use!!! ;)

I for one found it really useful - ring up the store - tell them what you want to order for the happy couple, pay over the phone - Bingo !! One less thing to do. You know they will be happy with the gift and saves you traipsing round the shops and potentially getting them the same gift 2-3 other people may have bought.....

I dont find it offensive at all being sent a list.... maybe its an age thing?
 
sandi wrote:
I am about to send out my Wedding invites and have just been informed/told by my mother in Law to be that it's the height of bad maners to include the gift list with it, and she once nearly didn't go to a friends wedding because they did this.
I really thought this was normal, what do you reakon? am I a rude cow?


I don't know in the UK but I've only get a gift list attached to the invite once, actually it was an account number, and I found it really really unpolite and shocking. YOu can't make for sure your guessts will make you a present Wink
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I do not like it but in Mallorca is quite usual if I have to say the truth, all the weddings invites I have received have a gift list or a bank account. I thougt this was normal but Silvia and some people of the spanish part of the forums says is not very usual in the mainland.
So I suppose it's a matter of the place you live.
I do not like it, If was getting married I woudn't put it neither a gift list or a bank account. I suppose is a matter of opinion so I would do what you think is convinient.
 
yeah don't worry about it, forget all the traditionalists :D

the whole idea isn't so that people buy you those presents, its to make life easier for the people buying that dont have a clue what to get you, and saves you the embarrasment of suggesting something of a particular value ie. i want a food mixer (f*** sake, i wasn't gonna spend that much!) or id like a nice set of teacloths (f*** sake, do they think we're f***ing poor????) if you see what i mean :roll:
 
I was at a wedding on saturday and the invite stated that under no circumstances should anyone feel obliged, but if they wished to give a gift the wedding list would be available at John Lewis from a certain date. I didnt think it was offensive at all (plus, this was a really upmarket wedding, i'm sure they would have checked it out first)
 
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