Huge Robder whinge moment

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Robder

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FLAT UPDATE:

I've just been gazumped :( - my sale has fallen through! Noooo! The tenant put in an offer at asking price bypassing the estate agent so I've lost out.

…and topping the day off...to cut a long story short, the sale of my Brighton flat has fallen through also - within half an hour ON THE SAME DAY! :( This means it's going to be near impossible to sell pre-Christmas so I have to look for another tenant to make ends meet which will lock me into another 6 month contract. Consequently, I can't sell again till April-ish and realistically won't get into another situation like this until this time next year.

:(

This has majorly realigned all my priorities overnight...I now seem to have no concrete direction to focus on and it's not in my nature to stand still. :-/ I've always got something up my sleeve or on the boil so this is a very strange floaty feeling. :?

Normally at this point, I'd decide to sell up in the new year and f*** off travelling with the intention of buying when I get back but I've got a husband now so leaving him at this point doesn't even feature on the radar.

So, an entire year - no plans - a job I don't particularly like, no home & no real direction. A nice blank canvas to be faced with but a bizarre one to have forced upon you. One thing's for sure - I can't drift around watching time pass me by. I've lived a trashy year throughout 2005 and I did it with intention...but I can't enter into another one because that phase has to end now.

(Obviously I'll still have time for p___ a___s and trashy Sunday sessions but it's time for me to find a grown up focus alongside these activities.)

I'm being very philosophical about the whole ordeal and am safe in the knowledge that everything happens for a reason but...whatthefookamIgonnadoooo?

Lots of thinking to do.

Blimey.

:( :cry: :? 8O :( :?: :?: :?:
 
Poor Robder. I feel for you, mate. Nothing worse than when big plans don't work out.

Hoping for some big changes myself soon but I'd be gutted if they don't come through.
 
sorry to hear about everything falling through :cry:


if you need a cheap room in a flat on the kings road inc bills/council tax from early dec for 4 to 6 months PM me...
 
Morbyd said:
Hoping for some big changes myself soon but I'd be gutted if they don't come through.
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Hey, don't take that unfashionable brown thing to heart. We like as you are :lol:
 
Buckley said:
Morbyd said:
Hoping for some big changes myself soon but I'd be gutted if they don't come through.
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Hey, don't take that unfashionable brown thing to heart. We like as you are :lol:
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Really? I was just about to sign up for the Michael Jackson chemical peel treatment and buy myself a whole range of designer sun umbrellas :( :? :lol:
 
I'm still slightly fuming about losing my dream flat Three years ago when on the day we were supposed to exchange the prick twat vendor wanted another £20k :evil: :roll: :evil:

At the time i told him to feck off.....in hindsight i really wished i'd just gave him it now :(
 
Rob - if it's really gonna stuff your whole year plan, you sure you can't (a) get a short term tenant or (b) release some equity to pay the mortgage for a couple of months?
 
Morbyd said:
Buckley said:
Morbyd said:
Hoping for some big changes myself soon but I'd be gutted if they don't come through.
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Hey, don't take that unfashionable brown thing to heart. We like as you are :lol:
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Really? I was just about to sign up for the Michael Jackson chemical peel treatment and buy myself a whole range of designer sun umbrellas :( :? :lol:
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Soul Man in reverse! :lol:
 
Robder, I'm with Mark on this one, focus on getting a new job or seting up a business you like but don't get stucked in a office where you are unhappy.

And a kiss for you
 
Rob I'm a big believer in things happen for a reason and for whatever reason this flat just wasn't meant to be for you.

A few years ago me and Tom had found our 'dream flat' and a week before we were meant to move into it the buyer on my flat pulled out and then we subsequently lost our 'dream flat' :twisted: We thought about other measures like renting my flat out short-term, selling mine on the cheap etc etc but in the end we decided to just cut our losses, took a few months off house hunting (cos at that time nothing compared to this 'dream flat' for me :roll: :lol: ) and then 6 months later we found a flat we liked even more, sold my flat at a higher place and lived happily ever after :D

There will be an even better flat out there for you and everything will work out for the best, what's a few months in the scheme of things when you've got your whole life ahead of you ;)

(p_____a_______) ;)
 
Jesus i really feel for you :(, its horrible knowing that you had all those plans and then things happen thats out of your control and all the others go out the window.

House buying / selling is so stressful and theres nothing you can do to make it better :roll:

If i was you id leave your job and find something more worthwile, if your big plans are going to have to wait for a while longer then make staying here as enjoyable as you can.

You have to look at the bigger picture, you have your health, your friends and your family ;)
 
how spooky, I was ony thinking of you this morning, wondering whether you had got the flat.

Sorry for what has happened Rob, hate saying the usual shit, but you'll be ok, you'll find the right place, you'll have a plan, and you'll work through your problems, you've got to ;)
 
Aaaah cheers all! Nice to know all my virtual friends can come up trumps in a time of need. ;) :D :D :lol: xxx

Some of your stories made me feel a million times better (especially yours N8! 8O God, that must've been so soul destroying!)

Things could be so much worse! I've got a flat with loads of equity, I'm living in the best city in the world, I've got the bestest husband ever and more to the point, I'm not in the middle of a war/earthquake/storm/tidal wave.

Sometimes change can be good to keep you on your toes and on a strange, warped level, I'm enjoying the challenge this lesson is bringing. :?

...

A fresh start of sorts would be good in the new year sooooo - what do you all reckon to this...?

I LOVE the location of where I'm living at the mo cos it's possible to go everywhere on foot (right next to the river and loads of gorgeous architecture etc). I'm not sure London Bridge is a luxury I want to give up...BUT...the west end is shite and the people are all boring, clueless and uninspiring. Snobby I know but the Shoreditch dirrrt is really creative, unpredictable and full of like minded randoms (and trashy Sunday distractions).

I just feel at 26 that I should be living in the centre of it all rather then in the tourist mecca that claims to be London but isn't really. Does that make sense?

SOOOO should I move into some more rented accomodation in Shoreditch with Karen, an old friend of mine? She's smashing and I've shared with her before (but has slight control freak tendencies being a Virgo and all)...Hmmm what do we think?
 
Do it. I'll admit to being one of those bland folks who thinks SW3 is an ideal living areas :oops: but when Mark Sun dragged me and the missus out to Shoreditch weekend before last it seemed to be quite a lively part of town.
 
N8 said:
Go where your heart takes you :D
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You are this man:

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and ICM £5!

Watch next week when Nath/Darius asks, "Can you feel the love in this room?"
 
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