Correct etiquette...

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ibiza_lou

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:roll: Right....last night 12 of us went to dinner in Puerto Banus....not really our choice as it was too fancy pantsy but one of friends was the architect of it...so we all had to come along and admire his lovely drawing skills.....:lol:

Anyway....the bill came to about 560€ so as always we split the bill between us....which worked out at about 46€ each....8O
The thing is...one of my friends (who is completely skint at the mo) was a bit peeved off as (1.) he hadnt drunk ANY of the wine on the table and (2.) whilst everyone else was munching on steak...he had a pizza! Therefore, he feels it was completely unfair to pay that amount of the bill......:evil:

I actually 100% AGREED with him (usually I think its fair to split it...) as I had only also eaten a 10€ pasta and 5€ chocolate cake....and only water for the night. I´m not a scrooge or anything but I could totally see his point.:spank:

What would you have done or said in his situation (I felt a bit bad for him....he could have eaten for a week with his share!)....I know its the correct thing to split the bill but when your paying for some other buggers dinner....its a bit grrrrrrr!:evil:

We wouldnt have minded but the food was absolutely dis-gus-ting!!!! Bleeeeuugggghhh!:evil:
 
tricky, I would have said from the start I am really skint, do you mind if I pay my own.

If they are good friend's they will understand.
 
Either you say something and pay for your own or you say to yourself...this is going to cost me whatever so make the most of it ;)
 
What do you usually do when you go out? Do you pay "a escote" or everyones pays for what they eat?
Anyway, I'm with sirens on this one, if I'm going out with my friends and I'm skint there's no problem for me and for my friends to say I'm paying for what I've eat
 
silvia said:
What do you usually do when you go out? Do you pay "a escote" or everyones pays for what they eat?
Anyway, I'm with sirens on this one, if I'm going out with my friends and I'm skint there's no problem for me and for my friends to say I'm paying for what I've eat
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We always just split the total bill between how many of us actually ate - fair no? (My bfriend insists he always pays for me...so I dont have any problems...:lol: ). However, the guy last night was actually my bfriends cousin so only knew a few of them...and not well. However, because last night was such an extreme difference to pay....my bfriend was actually a bit annoyed too....and I agreed with them....:evil:

I dont think I could say anything out loud though....:?
 
ibiza_lou said:
We always just split the total bill between how many of us actually ate - fair no? (My bfriend insists he always pays for me...so I dont have any problems...:lol: ). However, the guy last night was actually my bfriends cousin so only knew a few of them...and not well. However, because last night was such an extreme difference to pay....my bfriend was actually a bit annoyed too....and I agreed with them....:evil:

I dont think I could say anything out loud though....:?
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Then your boyfriend should say: my cousin pays what he got cos he is skint.
 
One of the classic social dilemma's (amongst young people).

I love the columnists (i the more "old-school" uk newspapers) that have someone replying to these problems!

If there's been a grave imbalance in the bill, then only the coldest of "steak-eaters" won't pay their (full) way. Essentially, you're not takign any (extra) money off them, as it were, and if nothing else I'd (as the "steak eater") be gracious to your courage to make a delicate point of it, and accordingly offer to extract yours.

The problem is, it opens the floodgate for peeps to get their calculators out and each tot up their food, thus leavuing an inevitable shortfall by the end.

Tricky
 
It should fall to the wine and steak consumers to offer to pay more - it's never been a problem with anyone that I'd want to have dinner with.
 
It can work both ways, one of our friends is a HUUUUGE eater, even thoug he's only a little guy. When we go and have a curry he orders two main meals, and two rices. Then when the bill comes he expects to pay the same amount as everyone else! Luckily we're that close that we all tell him off when he tries to put in a tenner for two mail meals :lol: and make him pay his fair share.

I normally just pay the same as everyone else and don't think about the difference, unless there's a big difference in what I've eaten. If there is, then I definately tell people at the table that I'm only paying for what I ate. I don't care if it makes me look skanky :lol: I'd rather save my pennies!
 
i once went out on a joint birthday night out put on by former colleagues. It wasn't too expensive, a big Chinese buffet style affair. Because everyone pays the same, it should have been easy. I suggested we all buy our own drinks at the bar, and I did actually.

By the time the bill came it was an embarrasing mess of people totting up how many drinks they had and squabbling over pounds. Their kitty fell about short and nobody looked like they were gonna stump up. I ended up handing over almost double than I should to make up the difference as there was no way in hell they'd ever make it up. Funnily enough was the last time I ate out with that lot.
 
always gonna happen.

if youre skint, speak up at the start, shouldnt be such a big deal. even if you pay approx your share, it'll always average itself out along the course of your life.

its the people who insist on paying to the penny who funk me off. its ****ing embarrasing squabbling over a few pence, cos yes.... EVERYONE in the restaurant is looking at your table.

one bit of advice from my spitting in peoples food past.
if u go for a chinese meal or one that you get a selection of dishes, why not agree on a price per head and ask the manager to do you a set menu for that price.

and if there are veggies in the group, tell em to take a packed lunch next time ;)
 
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Completely agree with all of your comments!:lol:

I dont really mind when someone eats more...but as you mentioned....its the "drinkers" that hack me off a bit....especially when you may not drink.
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We have a friend and she always drinks about 5 Heineken with dinner always....even if we are just on water.... If you dared mention that her drink cost 5€ and ours 1.50€ (for e.g.)....your life wouldnt be worth living! Shes harsh!8O

I felt a bit sorry for his cousin....hes very quiet.....so I just told him next time to order the caviar and champagne and keep shtttummm when the bill comes!!!:lol: :lol: :lol:
 
share the food, have a seperate tab on drinks.

problem solved.

and if they still dont like it.

tell em to go to the next ****ing bar.
 
chewie_oo7 said:
share the food, have a seperate tab on drinks.

problem solved.

and if they still dont like it.

tell em to go to the next ****ing bar.
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And then have no friends!8O

Problem solved!:lol:
 
ibiza_lou said:
And then have no friends!8O

Problem solved!:lol:
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works for me.

;)

just cos youre friends, doesnt mean you have to scurry around after em and do **** to keep em happy. never seen the point when people get all flapped over something that really really is insignificant like a few pence. or the ones who make you feel like the scum of the earth cos you aint got a round in!
 
I'd like to add that I often have the reverse effect with certain people

"It's ok, this one's on me..."

"No, mate, it's my turn..."

"No, put your card away, I'm getting this...."

"NO, I'M PAYING"

etc

*squabble"
 
Dan x said:
I'd like to add that I often have the reverse effect with certain people

"It's ok, this one's on me..."

"No, mate, it's my turn..."

"No, put your card away, I'm getting this...."

"NO, I'M PAYING"

etc

*squabble"
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thats fair enough!

its like that in Hong Kong... mass brawls to see who's gonna pick up the £20 bill for lunch for 8.
 
I found a great solution to this which I've started using after getting burned a few times (the missus is a light eater and I prefer beer to wine). I only use it in very large groups (i.e. 10 or more).

Ask the waitor/waitress for a separate bill from the beginning of the evening. If the rest of the group asks why, explain that you're low on cash and want to pay by credit/debit card. Usually no one gets offended.

Works like a charm ;)
 
Dan x said:
I'd like to add that I often have the reverse effect with certain people

"It's ok, this one's on me..."

"No, mate, it's my turn..."

"No, put your card away, I'm getting this...."

"NO, I'M PAYING"

etc

*squabble"
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Did you lift that from "Father Ted"?
 
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