The guys whose finishing with me is coming up tonight to see if he's made the right decision or not. I'm in the process of getting all his things together in case of the worst, but my question is, should I get rid of the presents he gave me, the cards, and the photo's or might I regret that later when I have nothing left of the last year?
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mambobirdette
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Sam, if your thinking of taking him back then you really need your head looking at young lady! :x :x 
It'll only be another few months before he decides he doesnt want to be with you again, dont let it happen.
Surely he knows by now if he wants to be with you or not
It'll only be another few months before he decides he doesnt want to be with you again, dont let it happen.
Surely he knows by now if he wants to be with you or not
mambobirdette
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and instead of throwing them away id give it all back to him.
I know he does Kerry. Things have happened to him recently that have really f**cked his head up and he's confused. He's scared. He still loves me and wants to be with me (his own words) but has convinced himself this is the right thing to do to save it going wrong in the future. All I can do is let him go if thats what he decides and pray that he'll realise what he's lost.mambobirdette said:Sam, if your thinking of taking him back then you really need your head looking at young lady! :x :x
It'll only be another few months before he decides he doesnt want to be with you again, dont let it happen.
Surely he knows by now if he wants to be with you or not
mambobirdette
Active Member
sexki11en said:I know he does Kerry. Things have happened to him recently that have really f**cked his head up and he's confused. He's scared. He still loves me and wants to be with me (his own words) but has convinced himself this is the right thing to do to save it going wrong in the future. All I can do is let him go if thats what he decides and pray that he'll realise what he's lost.mambobirdette said:Sam, if your thinking of taking him back then you really need your head looking at young lady! :x :x
It'll only be another few months before he decides he doesnt want to be with you again, dont let it happen.
Surely he knows by now if he wants to be with you or not
Aaaaw i didnt realise there was more depth to it than that.
I hope things work out for the best then
, suppose it doesnt help that he's all the way down there does it.keep anything of value, bin the rest, make sure you're not home 2night!! life's too short for wasting time with someone who messes with your head. it's pretty simple, theres no gray area, you either wanna be with someone or you don't!!!! 
if he's made the right decison??
ha!!! what if he says yes i have??? thats you in a state again init???
fook him off!!!
if he's made the right decison??
ha!!! what if he says yes i have??? thats you in a state again init???
fook him off!!!
My hair is done already, I have tanned and my make up will be immaculate by the time he arrives - as will my flat. Theres no way on earth i'm letting him win this one thank you very much!stuie said:sexki11en said:Lol, cos I'm not already in a state?
Rule Number 1 of messy breakups - do not ever let it show how much of a state you are in!
sexki11en said:My hair is done already, I have tanned and my make up will be immaculate by the time he arrives - as will my flat. Theres no way on earth i'm letting him win this one thank you very much!stuie said:sexki11en said:Lol, cos I'm not already in a state?
Rule Number 1 of messy breakups - do not ever let it show how much of a state you are in!
your'e soooooooooooo gonna shag him
mambobirdette
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i couldnt bring myself to do that, id be too upset
fatphilb
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If you really wanna be with him, then back off and give him space and time to sort his head out.
If you're feeling the strain, and no matter how many times you've tried it just doesn't seem to work, then get out now.
At the end of the day, advice is good, but its easy for others to tell you what to do when they aren't the people dealing with it. I would have kept plodding on had it not been for a good hard kick up the backside from a good friend. Its not easy, and yeah I'll admit that I miss her company. But life goes on, and I've just met a great girl (who has a lot more in common with me!) so all is good.
Don't be too available - he sounds like a headf.uck to me. How much of what is in his head actually real? I dont know you or him, so i may be off the mark here, but its not unkown for people to over-dramatise things to win affection! Especially insecure people. Either he wants to be with you or he doesnt. You only get one life, so don't waste any of it!
If you're feeling the strain, and no matter how many times you've tried it just doesn't seem to work, then get out now.
At the end of the day, advice is good, but its easy for others to tell you what to do when they aren't the people dealing with it. I would have kept plodding on had it not been for a good hard kick up the backside from a good friend. Its not easy, and yeah I'll admit that I miss her company. But life goes on, and I've just met a great girl (who has a lot more in common with me!) so all is good.
Don't be too available - he sounds like a headf.uck to me. How much of what is in his head actually real? I dont know you or him, so i may be off the mark here, but its not unkown for people to over-dramatise things to win affection! Especially insecure people. Either he wants to be with you or he doesnt. You only get one life, so don't waste any of it!