Advice needed please folks!!

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MrMambo

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Hello to you all. It's been ages since I've posted on here mainly because I'm not going to Ibiza this year and I just get too envious reading about how people got on! :x ;)

Anyway, I wonder if anyone can help me out with a (lack of) relationship problem I'm going through. It all started 3 weekends ago when I was clubbing in Bristol at Brownstones. Hed Kandi night so all happy and drunk. :D

I left the club at 2 and all my mates went home. I was just warming up so started asking randoms if they were going on clubbing after - an annoying habit I sometimes get :lol: A bloke and his girlfriend said they knew a club that would be open.

I'll cut the story short to spare boredom. Had a good laugh at club, a couple of sweets and got to know them both well. Two cracking people from up north. Went back to theirs for mixing music and generally getting wasted.

Went to theirs the following weekend for more of the same.

The weekend just gone, the boyfriend went to Ibiza for the week so they both agreed for me to keep her company on the Saturday night to listen to Radio 1 at Space while he was there. Went round on Sat night and chilled with beer, wine and smoke.

The problem is this: I really like her and we get on really well. I know nothing will happen as she has been with her fella for nine years and he's really sound.

What should I do? :?

Ignore her texts and calls and put it all behind me. Or, let her know how I feel and that it wouldn't be a good idea to see either of them again. Can't stop thinking about her. :cry:

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. :)

Cheers
 
Knock it on the head while you still can. She might be thinking similar thoughts about you but she's obviously still in love with her b/friend. You could tell her and she might not feel same way and it will ruin your friendship with her and her b/friend. Even if she feels the same way and cheats on her b/friend with you, it just won't be worth it for the hurt and upset it will cause. She'll either stay with her b/friend and you'll feel even worse or even if she ends it with her b/friend I think it's unlikely that she'd want to go straight from one relationship to another and there would be too many issues for you to work as a couple.

Just try and take a step back, maybe don't see them as much for a while but stay in contact and hope you can start to view her just as a really good friend.
 
Thanks Barbie, top advice. ;)

I know thats the best thing to do, knock it on the head early on but common sense sometimes gets clouded.

I don't think I should see either of them again for this reason and just put it down to a few happy memories.

Life can really be a bitch sometimes. Thanks again Barbie.
 
Jam Man said:
Post a picture of her so we can understand a bit better ;)
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I haven't got any, but given the situation it is wise to keep things anonymous. You never know who is reading! ;)
 
MrMambo said:
Thanks Barbie, top advice. ;)

I know thats the best thing to do, knock it on the head early on but common sense sometimes gets clouded.

I don't think I should see either of them again for this reason and just put it down to a few happy memories.

Life can really be a bitch sometimes. Thanks again Barbie.
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Tbh I was in similar situation once (but I was the girl in your story if you get what I mean) but I followed it thru and cheated on my then b/friend with this new person. And for all the hurt and upset it caused on so many people I would never ever ever do it again. I'm sure if you get on as well as you say you do she's probably having similar thoughts to you and starting questionning her relationship with her b/friend but believe me it just isn't worth it, you might think a couple of shags and you'll get her out your system or something but feelings will become involved and it will be so hard for everyone involved.

I wouldn't break off total contact with them tho, just not see them as much for a while and then try and view her differently.

But it is hard tho :?
 
MrMambo said:
Jam Man said:
Post a picture of her so we can understand a bit better ;)
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I haven't got any, but given the situation it is wise to keep things anonymous. You never know who is reading! ;)
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I think Jam Man would probably just be satisfied with a picture of her cleavage... :lol: :lol:
 
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