advice for friends wedding

This is the reason why we buggered off by ourselves to get married - weddings imo cause so many headaches - you have to be so diplomatic with arrangements. We had a huge catholic contingent in Liverpool -all close family, and my 4 relatives (including parents who live in Cyprus). Liverpool lot would have expected a big catholic church wedding with me converting (which was not going to happen as I am agnostic) and my parents wanted us to get married in Cyprus (which would have been a showboat for my parents) hardly any of Mr PL's family would have been able to afford to travel to Cyprus and my parents would have been put out coming to Liverpool (I think they would have felt overwhelmed by the huge numbers of family on that side.)

We didnt even have a party when we got back because we didnt want presents (we had lived together 7 years) we had everything we needed. But to be honest, our marriage was really about the two of us (could be misconstrued as selfish I know) all we needed/wanted was the two of us there with no fuss, no showboating - just our vows to each other

I-G I think where your coming from is that you would have liked your friend to sit down with/email you all to explain how he was going to plan his wedding and why it is to be planned the way it is. That way, avoiding any awkward/uncomfortable situations such as this one...

I hope it all works out and you manage to settle your differences without World War 3 breaking out over it..... at the end of the day - its not worth it.....

As an afterthought if you feel so strongly about this, why dont you drop a line to your friend and his new wife asking if you can all arrange to go out for dinner after they come back from honeymoon, because you would all love to celebrate their wedding too........ just a thought... ;)
 
hi there
puppylover you are the only one who makes sense in this long thread!
i completely understand that its hard to plan the wedding without stepping on peoples toes.
We have all ageed yesterday that we wont make any comments and respect his (still to us rather weird) choise....it is HIS wedding most of all, but we just feel deprived of participating, thats all.

we would have loved him to tell us why he has desided to make a party without his friends, but he hasnt and doesnt have time. Nevertheless we are going out to buy him something nice today, and make peace with the fact that we are not as included in this as we would have loved to be.

thanks for all comments, good as bad, harsh and honest.
when I ask a question I should expect different answers, so thanks to you who took their time.
 
in my experience most girls are high maintenance, i think they get taught it at school, probably in a special class set up for when the boys all have to go to the nurse to get their balls felt with a cold spoon.
 
fatphilb said:
in my experience most girls are high maintenance, i think they get taught it at school, probably in a special class set up for when the boys all have to go to the nurse to get their balls felt with a cold spoon.
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HMWs we refer to them as :lol:
 
Barbie said:
fatphilb said:
in my experience most girls are high maintenance, i think they get taught it at school, probably in a special class set up for when the boys all have to go to the nurse to get their balls felt with a cold spoon.
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HMWs we refer to them as :lol:
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Excellent - I get letters after my name at last!!!

Puppylover HMW(Hons)
 
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