Doggie Dilemma

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Barbie

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As some of you know me and Tom are in the process of adopting our 'baby' :D :lol: Anyway I've been speaking to a lovely lady in Richmond who runs a dog rescue centre and she came round tonight to interview us, do a homecheck etc. Anyway she brought 2 'friends' with her - 2 adorable Lakeland Terriers :D After a nice chat she asked if we wanted to walk them in the park opposite from us so we take these 2 dogs for a long walk round the park. The history behind them is that it's a boy dog and girl dog, the boy dog is 8 and the girl dog is 5 and they've been together all their life - the boy dog is very laid back and placid and the girl dog is a bit more minxy (basically me and Tom of the dog world :lol: ), a couple of months ago their owner died :cry: and her last wish was that these dogs go to a good home together :cry:

When we came home the woman has basically said for us to think it over and if we want these dogs she thinks we would provide them with a loving home.

So do we take both - our hearts say a big YES :D but we're trying to think it thru logically - are 2 dogs going to be too hard work for us in our first role as parents?? But then on the other hand getting 2 means that they're going to have their own little buddy there all the time.

What to do???????????? Anyone been in a similar situation?? Any advice from the dog lovers of the board??
 
If you can afford it, i'd say go with the two... look at it this way, when its time to walk the dogs, you can both go together and you each get a dog rather than arguing who gets to (or doesn't have to) walk the dog.

also, if it was the owner's dying wish i'd either make sure his /her wish is fulfilled or find someone who can take them both on:)

Some people think of their pets like their children... could imagine splitting up twins into different homes?

Good luck with your decision! :)
 
Get the two, the best thing we did was get two cats not one. I always feel sorry for our neighbours cat who is on it's own all day.

Go for it! :p
 
sandi said:
Get the two, the best thing we did was get two cats not one. I always feel sorry for our neighbours cat who is on it's own all day.

Go for it! :p
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I'm going to be known as the mad lady in Ealing with all the dogs :lol:

You are right tho, I'd hate to leave one dog on their own but knowing they had their little buddy to play with wouldn't seem so hard.
 
Do you have a house or a condo (AKA flat in teabag language)?
Do both of you work 30+ hours a week, and are both of you gone around the same time?
 
LagunaBeachCA said:
Do you have a house or a condo (AKA flat in teabag language)?
Do both of you work 30+ hours a week, and are both of you gone around the same time?
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We have a house with garden.

I freelance so my work is varied, Tom works full-time but has day off in week. I've already got a dog walker organised who lives locally for times when neither of us are going to be in - I'm taking my new role as a mum very seriously ;)
 
Barbie said:
We have a house with garden.

I freelance so my work is varied, Tom works full-time but has day off in week. I've already got a dog walker organised who lives locally for times when neither of us are going to be in - I'm taking my new role as a mum very seriously ;)
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House with a garden is good. The fact that your work is varied is also a plus, provided that you will spend a decent amount of your off-time with the dogs. That is also very good.

The question you and Tom need to ask of yourselves very sincerely is that how much are you willing to incorporate these dogs into your personal/social lives. It's all fine to be lovey dovey but just like everything in life you cannot lose touch with reality.

You also need to see if these dogs are the needy type or they are quite independent. I have owned German Shepherds and Alsations till I came to the US, and given the circumstances right now, if I had a house I would own one in a heart beat. They were all very independent dogs. Personally, my dog world starts and ends with the German Shepherd, and I am not at all a fan of these toy dogs. But this is about you and Tom, and not about me.

If you have evaluated what you want to do with sincere emotional and logical perspectives you will never go wrong. You two are grown ups and are capable of making the right decisions for yourselves. I wish you two the best of luck.
 
what ever you dont split them up, it will break their hearts, seen this happen before more than often one of the dogs dies with a broken heart! sounds silly but its true.

if you do go ahead with it, it will be one of the best things you have ever done! :)
 
Laguna - You are far too logical sometimes :lol: ;)

Babs - I say take the pair. You know you want to. Just think of it as being new parents surprised by having twins!
 
Morbyd said:
Laguna - You are far too logical sometimes :lol: ;)
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That's one of the reasons why I am a 30 year old virgin:oops: . I go through a lot of mental masturbation sessions on almost every decision (if not every decision) that I make.
 
Hmm.... a bit more information than... well, what the hell. Just say you're waiting for that special someone!
 
Morbyd said:
Hmm.... a bit more information than... well, what the hell. Just say you're waiting for that special someone!
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Oh, no. I am not embarrassed by it at all. It's not as if I robbed someone. The smiley was just a smiley. I used to have quite a bit of an inferiority complex when it came to pursuing relationships till about 2003.

The society that I grew up was a very comparative one and one that is controlled by shame. In other words a lot of negative encouragement. I was always slammed with comments like "why can't you be like this person or that person", "look at this person or that person... how good their grades are...how well behaved they are...etc." If I got good grades, I got the comment that the test was probably easy. I was in the top 4 table-tennis players in the provincial team in Pakistan (under 16). Whenever, I came back with a trophy or something, and my Dad would often say that if I were only as good in my studies as I was at table-tennis.

I had a long convo with my folks about it. I told them that I never blame them for the issues I had. They did what they thought was best for me. They grew up in countries where you could not make a living at being an athlete. Heck one would have a very hard time supporting oneself, let alone a family, being a teacher or a Physics major or art major. I told them that the only thing that they never realized was that it really messed me up from my teenage years till my upper 20s. Even now I have a hint of that complex, but it is a faint glimmer of what it used to be.

All throughout my years whenever, I came across someone that I was really attracted to, I never approached them, as I justified to myself by saying that "what did I have to bring to the table?" "I have not achieved anything in my life." My achievements were measured by material success, as that I what was indirectly drilled into me. The sad thing was that no matter what I did it was never good enough for me. Heck, I was the first student to ever come from abroad and become the President of the Society of Petroleum Engineers at The University of Texas at Austin, the first student to ever come from abroad and be awarded the student leadership award by the College of Engineering at UT. I graduated with a decent GPA from the top Petroleum Engineering program in the country (if not the world). I excelled in my professional career. All that was never good enough. I became a bottomless pit.

However, when I moved to CA I met my best friend, Harald, who is from Stuttgart. Even though my parents are Iranian and his are German, but the way they raised us was identical; I mean 99% same, but he never had issues with chicas like I did. He is 12 years older than me, and his wife (who is from Denmark) is my age. Talk about a cradle robber:lol: . He is like an older brother that I always wanted. He and his wife Camilla were the reason why I got out of the dark hole.

So, me compadre John, that is why I have been solo for my first 27 years. Now, the situation is that when most of the people the I was physically attracted to either came with a lot of baggage, or I had nothing in common with them, or they had nothing in common with me. Also considering the fact that when I go out and 10 people approach me, 5 of them are guys and 3/5 girls think I am gay (because of my colorful way of dressing up) reduces the pool significantly.:lol:

Let's also face it, it is very hard to find someone who is genuinely into the stuff that we are into (clubbing, house music, etc.) and who would be totally cool with shooting, hunting, etc., and vice versa. But that's who I am and this bubba ain't gonna make compromises on my activities. It's not as if I am going and banging other people's wives for a passtime.

How the funk did we manage to rob Barbie's thread and discuss my history? Sorry Babs.
 
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Morbyd said:
Laguna - You are far too logical sometimes :lol: ;)

Babs - I say take the pair. You know you want to. Just think of it as being new parents surprised by having twins!
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As Morbyd said thanks for the logical answer LB - yep we know a dog(s) will change our life but at the age of 30 I do feel ready to enter the world of grown-up ness :lol: ;)

Lol @ Babs the mother of twins 8O :lol:
 
LagunaBeachCA said:
How the funk did we manage to rob Barbie's thread and discuss my history? Sorry Babs.
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We did go off on a tangent a bit, didn't we :oops: :lol:

Well, that all makes good sense. Didn't know you had a background in oil... I worked at an oil company for 3.5 years until this spring (and had oil company consulting clients before that)... but I digress even further :lol:

So, the moral to the story is:
Babs - take both dogs
Laguna - relax and find yourself a nice girl ;)
 
Morbyd said:
We did go off on a tangent a bit, didn't we :oops: :lol:

Well, that all makes good sense. Didn't know you had a background in oil... I worked at an oil company for 3.5 years until this spring (and had oil company consulting clients before that)... but I digress even further :lol:

So, the moral to the story is:
Babs - take both dogs
Laguna - relax and find yourself a nice girl ;)
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Another successful outcome on Spotlight :lol:
 
They sound adorable. I say that if you've fallen for them (which it sounds like you have) then go for it. Whatever changes you have to make to accomodate the two of them will definately be worth it when you come in from work in a bad mood and get bowled over by two little excitable balls coming for a cuddle. :p ;)
 
Scoobie said:
They sound adorable. I say that if you've fallen for them (which it sounds like you have) then go for it. Whatever changes you have to make to accomodate the two of them will definately be worth it when you come in from work in a bad mood and get bowled over by two little excitable balls coming for a cuddle. :p ;)
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Tell me about falling for them I even dreamt about them last night :oops: :lol:
 
I was attracted to this thread as I thought it was about whether to try a new sex position!

anyway...babs you gotta get the pair of them you cant split em up...so go for it!!
do it do it do it!!!
:)
 
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