basically, there is no nice way to put this, I am having a personal nightmare and have no idea what to do for the best so am looking for some good honest advice. My dear mother is very very ill (cancer). She was having treatment but got the call last saturday night from my brother, basically it has spread and she had been put into a HDU and been given 24-48hrs max. I shot up to Manchester and spent all sat night at the hospital. Sunday morning she rallied a bit and was out of immediate danger, however the situation is academic, there is no hope, it could happen today, it could happen next week but it is going to happen. This is the dilema. On Monday, i had to drive back to London as my wife (8 mths pregnant) had to be back for some appointments. My father, said that he wanted me to take her home and did not want me to come back as there was nothing I could do for my mum, he didnt want me to see my mum in that state anymore and it seemed he just wanted to be with her alone. So I came back down and have returned to work, obvously remaining in close contact with both my dad and my brother Now, my mum (to the drs amazement) is still with us (actually shes so doped up on morphine shes asleep). Now Im torn whether to defy my dad and go back up at weekend or stay put. I mean I could take compassionate leave and go up there, wait for the inevitable and stay till the funeral, but it could be days or weeks. I know my mum would be mortified if she knew i had seen her as I saw her on monday when I said my goodbyes, but I feel I still owe her and should be with her, my brother says I should stay where I am and be with my wife, as does my dad, but I cant help but feel I have abandoned them when they need me most??
Its really tearing me up
Its really tearing me up